My baby won’t sleep

[worrierneighbour]

I’m so sad tonight. I feel like a complete failure. My son is 13 months, breastfed and sleep is a nightmare. I haven’t left the house in the evening his entire life. No one else can settle him and even if I try nothing works.

I hope he’s teething but I worry he’s not and this is just my life.

I regret breastfeeding so much. He needs me so intensely still but I don’t make him happy.

Everyone else can put their babies down and go out. Other people can put their babies down for them. I have reached breaking point today.

I need to sleep train but have no resilience.

Why can’t I put my baby down without him waking :(

Do you have a partner?

Your baby WILL settle for someone else, you and they just need to persevere.

I would night wean as a starting point.

Thank you so much for your reply. I do have a partner and he tries but DS does just scream and I can hear it through the house. Last night I just couldn’t take it any more and my partner did settle him, it just takes so long. Then starts again not long later. I’m going to look into night weaning today, really hope that will help.

We really tried with implementing a new system and DS was settling so much better. However last night for some reason when DS woke at 12 I sprang up before my partner and fed him, was up for over an hour, am now so upset as now DS will expect feeding in the night again. Have been trying so hard to not feed him and to have my partner settle him instead and it was working and I’ve just undone it all. Feeling very low about it all. Just got to keep trying but I’m really struggling for some reason.

I hired a sleep consultant at 11 months as I just couldn't do it anymore. The lack of sleep nearly killed me. She is called Blissful Baby Sleep Expert. Check her instagram out, she is like mary poppins. Honestly even if you don't pay for her services she has so many amazing tips and tricks. Look her up.

Thank you so much for this, will check her out now. So glad she helped you, hope your sleep is still lots better. Can’t explain how helpful it is to hear this.