1 year old, used to settle at night for bed now screams for around an hour, help!

[hayleybop]

Help me , my 1 year old DD was unwell last week with gastroenteritus ( cant spell!) she now has a tooth coming through, dont know if this has anything to do with it but when I put her in her cot now for bedtime, she gets up and starts to play around, then she screams when I lay her back down. I have spent the last week spending around an hour trying to settle her rubbing her back singing ect... then finially after an hour she is asleep. Is this normal will I get my Dd to settle o.ki again?

Hi, this is maybe a really dumb question, but is she tired when you put her to bed? The only reason I say this is that my DS is coming up for 12 months now and I can't get his sleep patterns in the day sorted at the moment as I think he is on the verge of dropping from one daytime nap to two. His bedtimes have been later than normal recently too.

Dont know, maybe it's seperation anxiety...she's really clingy at the moment. she naps at 8am and then at 1.30-2pm. she's always tired....I have a huge dog to walk everyday so i take her out in the pram and she's asleep within 5-10 mins of walking. She goes to bed at 8pm but it has been ending up at 9pm...from all this non stop crying, it's really upsetting for everyone. I feel like crying myself! She goes to bed at 8pm as she used to get up at 5am now she wakes at 6a, which is more reasonable...

My DS is very clingy at the moment too, hanging onto my legs as I try to brush my teeth etc! Gets a bit wearing doesn't it?!

My DS had only one nap today as I took him out in the morning to distract him and he napped from 11.30 to 1.30. He went down easily at 7pm for once (its been edging closer to 8 and taking ages to settle him), so it seemed to work better today for us.

How much today daytime sleep is she getting do you think?

Same thing happening with my dd who only turned 11 months yesterday. am convinced it's separation anxiety. We used to just put her down in her cot, leave the room and she would sleep or play with her toys until she slept. Now, she screams when we put her grobag on.
Most people have told me to do controlled crying, but i don;t want to. So, I rejigged her routine, cut back her afternoon nap (so she wakes no later than 2.30pm) and stayed in room with her, comforting her when she started to cry. Have started to gradually move out of her room, sat by the doorway knitting one night, eventually moving out to the office space outside her room and doing some MNetting while she drifts off! Seems to be working (fingers crossed). Hope it;s just a phase. Would love to hear from other Mums who have older dcs who have been through this, what did you do? and how long did phase last for?

Hi, I didn't let her have a a morning nap today and she was fine, it helped that the sun was shining here in cornwall as she played in the garden all morning then i fed her at 12.30pm and she was nodding off whilst having her lunch so I popped her into bed then she slept for around 1.5 hours. Her grandparents came to visit her today and stayed for supper so they were there when I was going to put her to bed but she was far to excited, I let her 'show' off for a bit then when they went I put her to bed and it wasn't half as bad as the nights before, she did get up and start to play around so i left her room, she cryed for a few minutes then i returned lay her down pat her back sang 1!!! song and she was in dream land...yeah think I've ctacked it, no more screaming for an hour, thanks for the advice.
Going to have to see how Nursery goes tuesday as she was unconsolable when i picked her up last week...see if it is seperation anxiety or just from being unwell, teething..wish I could read minds...

Hi, glad it worked out for you today, hope tomorrow is as good!

glad to see others are finding their 1yo bedtimes going a bit fuzzy - my ds likes a long morning nap (1.5hrs) but it can start any time between 10am-noon (and my god that's a pain). He may or may not have an afternoon nap, if he doesn't he's a whiny little pita from about 5pm onwards - however if he does it's often late to bed!

As for bedtime itself - well he comes out of the bath firing on all cylinders, dh and I take ages to pin him down long enough to get nappy/jams on, then he runs around for a bit. Last 2 days he's made me nuts by coming to say he's tired/ready for bed, having a feed, eyes roll back in head, then... WAKING UP! for another half hour of play!

I can't see point in shutting him in cot when he's so very frisky - would just make him mad - but may start shutting him in boring bedroom, rather than letting him play where the toys are...

Another one in the same boat here... DD seems to be crap at going to bed if she has 2 naps but isn't quite ready to only have 1 and is a whingey mess from 5.30 and is too tired to eat much. Its a blooming nightmare

We're going to try pushing her morning nap out as late as possible and try and get her to only have one with maybe an earlier bedtime

Just when I'd started to think we'd got a nice little routine sorted

ah, see TSM, that's where you went wrong - thinking you knew what was going on

Ah, I am not alone! Finally got our lo sleeping for 2 - 3 hours in an evening (that's all we ask!) around the end of January, then three weeks ago suddenly she screamed and screamed if we tried to leave the room and we haven't had an evening since. Have spent 2 hours from 8 - 10 pm getting her down today, just don't know why or what's changed - or what to do. It leaves you feeling desperate, doesn't it? No idea what to do, will try and bring her nap forward but she does seem tired so not sure it's that. Hmm...nice to know though that we're not the only ones!