4 week old won’t sleep in crib

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I cannot get my baby to sleep in her next to me crib or moses basket for longer than 30 minutes at a time.

I am feeling quite low and dread the night times.

Most mornings I wake up in a panic as I’ve fallen asleep holding her whilst she feeds. I know this is dangerous and I feel bad about it.

I’ve tried white noise and a dummy, neither helped.

I feel like she is cluster feeding every night. Even when given formula to supplement. She always falls asleep on my boob.

I just don’t feel like I’m doing anything right and I’m letting both of us down. Any ideas on how either of us can get more sleep?!

Just co sleep with her. And cluster feeding is totally normal.

Research safe co sleeping and don't worry about it. Many of us had to co sleep as lots of babies just won't sleep on their own at first.

Yep co sleep and don't worry it's normal.they want to be close.

Would you feel safe looking at cosleeping?

My midwife mentioned it to us as an option and said to follow the Lullaby Trust guidance. Safest sleep is a separate crib (as you are trying), but cosleep is much safer than falling asleep holding the baby.

Don't guilt yourself, it's hard. And anxiety will only sap you of more energy, it will get better!

Look up safe co sleeping. My little one was like this and I nearly went insane. I do genuinely think it’s 100% down to a baby’s temperament, rather than anything you aren’t doing! Safely co slept with her and it was an absolute game changer. She’s 7mo now and we’ve gradually transitioned to her own room, so it needn’t be forever!

Its so so important, even if you don’t plan on doing it, to prepare to cosleep safely if you are bringing them in bed with you, just in case you do accidentally fall asleep- it’s so easily done (I say this from personal experience!) and that way, you don’t need to worry or put your little one in any danger :) this stage is so hard, do whatever you can to make things easier for yourself in my opinion.