4 week old won’t settle except on me and poops every time I try to put her down!

[GinnyAY]

Currently battling through cluster feeding hell and need some advice!

for the last few nights DD has been glued to me and feeding near constantly. She needs the boob to fall asleep and when she’s finally out properly (limp arms, regular breathing, very still) if i try to put her down to sleep she immediately starts grunting. Then within 5 mins she will poo and is then wide awake and screaming again, once changed she will only calm once she’s had some food and settled on me again.

She’s not great during the day either, I’ve barely slept in 3 days and now getting desperate! she seems in pain when she’s pooing and her tummy gurgles away. Burping her is another source of distress as she instantly starts screaming all
over again.

please help!

Can you join your local free NCT/breastfeeding peer support group? This is all very normal for a fourth trimester baby growing into their guts and hitting leaps etc. But someone can teach you wonky winding, tiger in the tree and loads of ways of coping and settling.

Hi op, unfortunately young babies aren't designed to sleep on their own, and their brain wakes them up when we put them down, as they are designed to be with us, otherwise they wouldn't survive, think of her like a cave baby, their instincts are to be hardwired to be in your arms otherwise they get eaten by a tiger.
This is the bit no one tells you when you're pregnant! It's really normal, but really hard while you're in the midst of it.
Have you got a sling? A lifesaver during the day. Means baby can sleep and you've got your hands free.
Cluster feeding is really normal, and babies causing a fuss over pooing years is called infant dyschezia, again completely normal newborn behaviour.
Hang in there, sleep whenever you can and accept all offers of help. It will pass ☺️

Sometimes breastfed babies don't actually need burping that much, so we end up waking them up after they've fed to sleep then they get cross and need to feed back to sleep again. If she's settled after a feed maybe try not to wind her too much and see if that helps.
Tiger in the tree position is good too as per previous post.

Can you take turns in shifts to hold her if you have a partner.
The lullaby trust safe bed sharing guidelines are worth reading too if you are exhausted.