Safe sleep advice

[Krumblina]

About to have first baby.
We have a Lua next to me crib which I'm hoping to use but also aware baby may refuse to sleep in it so want to make the bed as safe as possible for co sleep in case.
2 things!

1. Even in the next to me crib I'm worried the duvet will go into the crib while I sleep. I often move bedding about while I sleep. What do people do about this?
2. If I do co sleep can I not have a duvet at all?

I was thinking of getting an adult sleep sack or thermal onesie and then maybe a large size cellular blanket but only up to my waist? What about pillows for me? We will have a little heater so room shouldn't be too cold but I can't sleep well without any blanket. Any advice?

The sides of the crib stop any bedding going into the bedside cribs really. I found the covers never went near the actual crib.

Safe sleep guidance is to remove bedding and pillows. I have seen that some people will sleep with a blanket pushed to their hips but if you’re worried about bedding going into the bedside crib I don’t think you’ll be comfortable with bedding pushed to your hips.

I can’t sleep well without a blanket. Safe sleep also has you sleeping in a C space which I really don’t find comfortable. It was one of the reasons we didn’t do co-sleeping because I wouldn’t be comfortable enough to actually get some sleep. It did mean for the first 6-8 weeks DC wouldn’t go down at night in their bedside crib until about 2am. It was really hard but I figured for me, 3 hours of comfortable sleep were better than 6 hours of uncomfortable, restless sleep. But you’ll kind of work out what works you and your baby when they are here and then go to the Lullaby trust to check how to make what you are doing the safest possible.

I used an adult slumbersac and a king-size cellular blanket wrapped around my legs like a burrito so nothing lose. I had a pillow and kept my lower arm out straight between the pillow and baby's head so they couldn't sneak upwards. Hair tied up. No other people in bed with us.

That's handy thanks. I've been looking at the slumbersacs they look good.
I was thinking a 2.5 tog one as it's winter. What did you get?
I'm a bit unsure on their sizing. It just says chest and height sizes only but I'm all hips! Height wise I'd get a large. I'm about a size 18/20 atm.
Have struggled with regular sleeping bags. Are they roomy on the bottom half do you know?

I pushed the duvet down to my legs and wore my dressing gown in bed. Or a jumper!

Ah that's useful about the crib side. I was concerned I'd chuck the duvet over it when asleep.
I thought maybe a big cellular blanket for me would be better as they are the safest type for baby.
I'm hoping not to co sleep but am being realistic.
I see what you mean about quality over quantity sleep.
I've been looking at lullaby trust but they don't say much about the adult bedding from what I've seen.

Oh I get trying to be prepared. I thought we might end up co-sleeping but I just could not relax enough for it to work for us. DC is 3 now and will come into our bed but I still don’t really relax with them in the bed, I’m worried about hurting them if I roll over.

It’s just a balance of the best sleep available to you at that particular point.

They come up huge! Very roomy in all directions 😂 yep I got the 2.5 tog and wore long pjs under it and unzipped the front a bit to feed.

I couldn't co-sleep as had a premature first and often ended up with the moses basket inside the next to me so the high sides of the moses basket prevented my duvet flapping over to baby. I have co-slept with subsequent babies sometimes all together and/or sidecar cot with sides down so always needing to be aware of blankets etc. I tend to sleep in the C position with lots of layers of clothes on my bottom half, bf friendly warm tops and have my feet up to my knees covered with a duvet wrapped around my legs in a way it can't move up. It's so much easier co-sleeping with a summer baby!

Big baby is currently next to me in open sidecar cot and when I toss and turn a duvet definitely could go in her face. So I recommend having the sides up if you want to use a next to me and have bedding.