If you co-sleep with your one month old, what does your evening / night look like?

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I’m not sure I’m doing it as efficiently as I could! 😅

We co-sleep because he won’t go down in his Snuzpod or Moses basket etc. (He won’t even sleep in the fabled Sleepyhead!)

Anyway, if you co-sleep too, I’d be grateful if you could share what your evening routine looks like.

• What time do you all go up to bed?
• When you lay your baby to your side, do they also wake up and then stare at your boobs and want to feed again? Even if it’s time to sleep?!
• How often does your one month old wake you to feed through the night?
• If you feed on your side, how long do you stay awake before you fall asleep - and do you worry DC may not be getting enough milk through the night as a result?
• Also, if you feed on your side and nod off, what happens with winding / posseting? In the mornings there are little dried patches of posset on the bed.

Any tips would be welcome as I’m not sure I’m doing it right! Thank you.

I would go to bed with baby, which for first few months was about 11pm 😬. When it hot earlier I'd still go to bed with them and read my Kindle. I'd try to sneak away sometimes if I felt able.
One would stay snuggled up to boobs all night, one further away. When they woke I'd just feed them straight away and hope hope hope they'd go back off to sleep asap.
Wakes from 3 to God knows how many times.
My aim was always not to fully wake, so I'd often drift back to sleep before or at same time as them.
Never worried about how much milk they were getting as it was basically on tap, so I assumed they were getting the right amount.
Yes, little bits of sick up on sheets, had to be changed often. I never would sit up to wind etc. The aim was to stay horizontal and resting as much as possible.
There's no right or wrong way. You do it your way as long as you're following safe co sleeping guidelines.

It’s a long time since mine were that small but I was normally spend until 10/11 ish on the sofa watch TV with DH while little on clustered feed. If your baby is hungry and not getting enough they will tell you, very loudly! If you’re worried then get them weighed every few weeks.

Thank you @dairydebris thats really helpful - and reassuring too as my evenings sound very similar! What did you do about nappy changes throughout the night? As that can really upset DS and it can take an hour to clam him and get him back to sleep.

Thanks @Chillisintheair i did go for a weigh in last week and they were happy so yes that is reassuring 😊

Only changed poos. Missed the odd one. Nappies always very full in the morning. My whole focus was not disrupting either of our rest.
The bit I never really figured out was how to swap sides. Mostly I'd actually kind of climb over baby so I was on the other side. Sometimes didn't bother but I'd be quite uncomfortable by morning on those nights.
Mine are much older now and sleep happily on their own. We have occasional sleepovers and it's lovely. Wouldn't change a thing even tho I was knackered of course.

Thanks, again that is reassuring!

Out of interest, how were your babies with being put down to sleep in the daytimes @Chillisintheair and @dairydebris? Did they just want to be held to sleep?

Bumping for the night crowd!

I didn't have a partner but I went to bed when DD did for a good couple of years, I didn't necessarily sleep, would read a book (nowadays I'd watch a tablet with headphones / listen to a audio book) but I only had one child and there was no reason to stay up. Getting that extra rest helped me cope with the sleepless nights.

In terms of nappy changes, I'd change her if her nappy was dirty / in between boob feeds to wake her up a bit.

Eventually they just help themselves at night, DDs a teen though so it's a long time ago and I can't remember when that happened.

I think I burped her after one boob. And not the other if lying down, but that might have been later. I think at a month I was still sitting up with her for each feed.

I never worried about her not getting enough milk, she'd either let me know (loudly) or make up for it in the morning.

I went to bed between 11-12 after an evening nap on the sofa. DH holding the baby!

Night feeds eased up in frequency at that age, but could be looooooong.

He'd sleep on me, in the pram, in the sling too.

I also developed a feeding position where he was sat upright feeding, and he didn't posset/need burping much, but then he always had unusually good head control.

Horrific but both had allergies and reflux. Oldest is probably ND and still has reflux now and is an awful sleeper at 8 yrs old so I would discount her sleep as an average example. By the time my youngest was one she would nap during the day in the buggy or I would cuddle her to sleep and then leave her and she would sleep happily for 90 mins/2 hours. Before the age of one she was mostly in my arms, how she would walk by 9 months I will never know.