With baby no 2 I thought sleep would be easier! last week we made the decision to remove DS dummy - he’s 4 months- I know he’s young, shouldn’t have given him one in the first place really he was such an easy going newborn, unlike my daughter who screamed from morning to evening.. but the decision has now been made, gone cold turkey as he had me up every 45 minutes through the night and it was a crutch I would have been removing at 6 months anyway, replacing with a comforter (did the same with my daughter to sleep train and worked perfect for her). My problem is we are a week in without one, he’s doing great at night sleeping 11/12hours only waking for 1 feed and straight back down, naps and originally being put to bed however is still HELL (my daughter was grand by day 2). the devastating 20/30min screaming going down is heartbreaking and not easing up. He’s currently in a Love to dream sleeping bag with arm wings (doesn’t roll yet), I have been trying to allow him an arm free to self settle but hasn’t been working, he’s so inconsolable we just have to bounce/rock him to sleep until he screams himself unconscious. as soon as entering his room/knowing it’s close to sleep he starts screaming. pram naps are FINE, and the only place he sleeps longer than 30mins. I’m well aware of wake windows etc and know his sleep cues etc but my question is - he’s not really being settled by me giving him hands on help to sleep, should I just be leaving him to work out self settling?? he can do it in the night! you normally need to transition them out of these sleeping sacks so I’m worried I’m never going to get him calm enough to get his arms out.
he won’t even contact nap now, as soon as I settle him with sleepy associations the screaming starts and waking every 30min.
I will eventually want to sleep train but I don’t really want to let him cry at 4 months, but at the minute it doesn’t seem like I’m even helping him anyway so maybe I need to get out of his way???