Please recommend a book you have found helpful

[Pottedpalm]

I would like to buy a book on sleep for my DD who is expecting her first baby in December. Any suggestions? I believe trying to get routines established is a good idea. I’m not trying to be critical of those who do things differently, so just helpful suggestions please! ( I may have been on AIBU too much recently!)

I found The Baby Sleep Solution by Lucy Wolfe really helpful. Good advice and gentle.

Thank you@Cocoandcleo
Anyone else?

How exciting to have a grandchild on the way, and thoughtful of you to want to support your DD. Baby sleep can be so stressful. I wonder whether you’ve spoken to your DD about her parenting views and values? Has she expressed worries and asked for help in this area? You say “I believe getting a routine established is a good idea” but what does she believe? I’m just remembering the various books people gave or recommended to me and how loaded it felt. Baby sleep is a big industry with incredibly polarised views (bed sharing versus sleep training, etc) and a lot of judgement. I was very disorientated by all the information/books from friends, albeit all stuff they’d personally found useful and shared entirely with good intention. How do you think your DD might receive the gesture of a book on baby sleep? Maybe you could pay for a cleaner or some freezer meals or something else practical instead?

Thank you @Oxalis00 , it’s because there is such a range of views and opinions that I was hoping to find a degree of consensus here. I have given her several books on parenting and she has many friends with young children that she discusses things with. I realise ( too much time spent on AIBU) that a gift of a book on sleep would be viewed as judgemental in many families, ever more so if from the reviled Mother in Law, but that’s not the case here. I’m looking for suggestions of books people have found helpful, not alternative gifts.

Good luck with the hunt for consensus! I’ll be interested to see what others come along to suggest. Personally I’d say those I found unhelpful were Tracy Hogg (prescriptive and unrealistic) and Ferber (I didn’t want to sleep train and who has capacity to read a 400 page book?!) but also Sarah Ockwell-Smith (very much other end of the spectrum but IMO dismissed parental well-being). I’ve heard good things on here about Lucy Wolfe (recommended by PP) but haven’t hereafter it - I’d given up reading baby sleep books by then!