Crying just before sleep

[BeetyBlue]

Every night we take our 3 month old up, do his little bedtime routine then it ends with Dad hugging him and rocking him to sleep, which works every time HOWEVER, he cries for about 5 minutes before he sleeps. We've been trying to get away from feeding to sleep so he's not completely reliant on me to fall asleep. Is this ok? Has anyone experienced this or have any ideas on how to minimise the tears, worried he's going to sleep stressed every night. He does sleep for 6-8 solid after this I might add.

Have you tried slow gentle patting and or shush shush shush noises. It helps calm them down because it replicates your heartbeat, you can alow the pace down and they slow down their breathing and fall to sleep.

He never liked that even as a newborn we tried, he likes being fed to sleep but it doesn't always work and it meant the little time Dads got with him after work most of it he was once again excluded from.

I've fed all of mine to sleep and they've all self weaned just fine between 2 and 3.5 years old and would take milk from a feeding cup if I went out instead.

There's no need not to feed to sleep unless you're out of the house or busy. Babies can adjust really well if you're not there. Not sure why you're doing this to a tiny baby for the sake of it unless it's because you don't want to feed baby anymore. But yes some babies cry about being separated from their place of safety (your/husband's chest/arms) for sleep.

He's crying on husband/my chest not separated. Once he's asleep and in his cot he's perfectly happy and wakes us up when he's hungry by making nice soft sounds he doesn't wake destressed.
I can't feed him to sleep when I'm working late can I? It's more distressing to chop and change his routine. Also we don't all have the luxury of breastfeeding until that age, it wouldn't work with my job at all.
Also a tad less judgement would do you no harm. Everyone's circumstances are different doesn't mean we love our kids any less, and contact sleeping at night is dangerous so when I'm not hear he has to be rocked and put to bed simple.

5 minutes of crying to sleep while being cuddled by a parent will not harm a baby

It's perfectly fine maybe give them an extra 10/15 minutes of awake time and see if it helps they might not be tired enough but either way baby is fine

This boy doesn't do wake windows 😅 He's gone 5 hours perfectly happy before lol

Some kids de stress by crying before falling asleep. Is it more like a whiny, protest cry while being held then out like a light? Fine. Heartbroken screaming on their own before passing out? Not fine.
I had one of these. They now always share their worries before dropping off by chatting, etc. They're letting go of the day. Facilitate it and be there for them.

It's quite adorable that their little personalities are formed so young. Baby who needs a little moan and cry to fall asleep grows into child who likes to tell their worries to mum and dad before bed.

Really sweet 🥰