1yo crying for 90 mins

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Please help. My one year old has been crying for 90 mins now.

I’ve tried: calpol, rocking, patting / shhhing, offering a drink, getting him into bed with me (stops the crying but just messes about).

He is not too hot or too cold from what I can tell. I don’t believe he’s teething. He has had a cold but then he has since the start of September.

Partner is away.

Is it terrible to just leave him to cry himself to sleep? I honestly don’t know what to do. He doesn’t seem in any pain, just doesn’t seem to want to sleep but also not wide awake playing either.

He is such a terrible sleeper, this is just becoming more and more normal.

Things are always harder when you're on your own or tired too. Could it be constipation? Could you try reading a book to distract him? I wouldn't let him cry it out but I know many would. Good luck whatever you decide.

Could he have a blocked nose making him feel weird when he lies down? Do you have any of the salty nose spray to help clear him out?

@CatsandDogs22 yep used saline spray and baby vapour rub, and propping him up on a pillow

@Betterthanitseems I do think it could be constipation, have been trying to rub his stomach when he lets me. I do wonder if he has some sort of intolerance or something generally that bothers him and causes him to be such a bad sleeper.

Have you anything In you could give him t9 help him go? Mine used to take Ella's kitchen prune pouch if constipated,always worked. Alternatively a pear cut up? I know it's 12.30am but could br resolved snd sleeping quick if something helps him along

He doesn't want the day to end, otherwise he wouldn't be fine when he got in bed with you.Controlled crying is ok

Put in your bed and snuggle up with him if that lets him settle. He'll only be this young once. Ignore anyone who tells you otherwise.

Keep him in bed with you. Snuggle up and try to ignore the playing. He’ll be asleep before you know it.

I did do that but had my older DC in with me as well… youngest has just woken for the day after finally going to sleep at about 1am 😵‍💫

Hahaha people who say just bring them in bed and they'll be asleep before you know it!! Don't assume all children are like yours. Mine will take approx 4 hours in bed with us before getting back to sleep, in that time he is wiggling, kicking, going under the covers upside down, getting stuck and crying, pulling my hair, sticking fingers up noses, crying, standing up and slamming himself head first onto our heads.... He most certainly has never snuggled even when he was a newborn and I tried co-sleeping.

I've still been doing it recently because he's not well and we get tired of holding him and decide to just endure the pain because we always half believe he might be comforted and sleep with us! So sorry, no words of advice. We did CIO when he was younger but wouldn't repeat as he's only awake when there's something wrong now.

@Haaaaaaan Exactly that! My eldest would never settle in our bed either, though now he’s four we struggle to get him out of it,

The youngest might stop crying in our bed but he’ll just then be awake and wanting to play or hitting us, no way I can sleep and ignore him. Even if we do drift off it’s restless sleep.

Anyway the crying has started early tonight at 8pm after his brother woke him up and is still ongoing, at least it might end early.

I am now thinking it’s maybe separation anxiety and over tiredness as he’s fine in the day and during nap time.

Thinking of putting the cot in my room while partner away in the hope we all get some sleep as today has been hell.

Or he's able to handle whatever discomfort or illness is bothering him when he's comforted but not when he's alone..
Leaving a baby to cry is a form of neglect. It's one thing if it's temporary whilst giving reassurance while cooking or doing something necessary, it's entirely different when the parent shuts them in a dark room because they've had enough and can't be bothered looking after them anymore.

It might be worth getting the gp to check for an ear infection on Monday if he's still the same, that's always worse when laid down or when tired, and will make them wake frequently.

@SummerSnowstorm Actually did that earlier in the week because that has been the cause of it in the past, he is prone to recurrent ear infections but they said they were both looking good (almost annoying as at least if it’s that there is a solution!)