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3.5 year old suddenly waking at 4.30am - help!

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Maise24 · 23/09/2024 07:24

To set the scene- my 3.5 Yr old little girl has always needed lots of input at bedtime and has never gone to sleep on her own, we never sleep trained her and I breastfed her before bed and overnight untill she was 2 which worked for us and she began sleeping through the night with no issues around 2.5 although we still need to lie with her to go to sleep at bedtime. If we try and leave early she is super distressed, crying, screaming etc - which wakes my 1 Yr old up. We've tried talking about it in the day, using the chair gradual withdrawal etc but she screams at the top of her lungs and that doesn't work for us as a family as my son is currently also in the midst of some sort of regression and waking hourly

Bedtime aside - my daughter has suddenly began waking at 4.30 and coming into our room wanting me to play. I've tried everything to encourage her to stay in her room but she absolutely won't. She is bathed, in her pjs, bedtime routine done by usually 7.15pm and has 3 stories then lights out, although she sometimes doesn't go to sleep till nearly 8.30 -9 even after lights out. She doesn't have a nap anymore and hasn't for about 4 months. She's started falling asleep in the car now as she's so tired from these 4.30 wakes. I've tried taking her back to her room and putting on a audio story book and giving her a cuddle to go back to sleep but it doesn't work. The only other thing of note is she was very attached to her Dummy (only had it at night) and gave it up reluctantly a few weeks ago

My son wakes up every hour or so all night and then is now being woken up at 4.30. I've just gone back to work as a mental health nurse and can't cope with such disturbed sleep, I honestly don't know what to do.

Please can someone advise me about these early wakes?? We were gently sleep training my son by night weaning which was going well but he's teething/ has a cold atm so we paused but it's definitely something we are going to consider

Help!!

OP posts:
tonyhawks23 · 23/09/2024 07:42

Has she got socks on? maybe the colder mornings are waking her up and she can't get back over without the dummy.could try socks on/warmer layer.

Kaleidoscopic101 · 23/09/2024 22:47

Argh that sounds horrendous. I don't really have any solid advice...we used to have the same and would not go back to sleep again it was like a torture but tended to be summer when days longer. It is a funny time of year for early wakings as usually an issue when it's lighter in the morning. It could be a warmth issue as previous poster suggested. It might be that she's just formed a habit of waking up at that time a bit like we can as grown ups go through a phase of randomly waking up, looking at the clock and bizarrely exactly the time we woke up in the night previously. Things you could try if not already again not solid advice but ideas...A biggish nighttime snack to get through the night if she is waking because perhaps a bit hungry. Is she potty trained? If so, a night time waking for a wee (sounds awful but doesn't have to be forever it might help break the 4:30 habit). An earlier bedtime on a day she hasn't napped in car...sounds counterintuitive but an earlier bedtime can sometimes help accommodate an extra sleep cycle meaning a later wake time, appreciate that won't be easy but it might be effective. Good luck and hope you get sleep back soon.

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