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7 year olds sleep

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insomnia24 · 17/09/2024 01:14

DD has just turned 7. She's never been the greatest sleeper and regresses several times a year. Last year we were at breaking point, 5 months of waking in the night 6+ times. I contacted a play therapist as I think a lot of the issues stemmed from an episode in hospital where a nurse took some ECG stickers off her in her sleep (she has a heart defect) and this seemingly traumatised her. I didn't manage to get in with a play therapist due to no availability but one did suggest trying a new bed which we did and it miraculously worked!

Fast forward to now, we're 5 weeks with a similar regression apart from this time she 'kicks off' because she can't get to sleep. Or like now wakes up in the middle of the nights for 2 hours hysterical because she can't get back to sleep. Half is behavioural I think and other that she genuinely can't get back to sleep. I say behavioural because she'll sit up for hours moaning and crying she cannot sleep but will refuse to lie down and close her eyes. We've explained we cannot make her get to sleep she needs to use breathing techniques etc to relax but it just goes on for hours.

Tonight when it started at 11:30pm I did lose my head with her and shouted. Mainly because she woke up her siblings (3m and 2yo) the whole household is affected by her sleeping. My husband went and sat in with her to calm her down.

She goes to bed at 19:45 which may be a bit early, wakes up 6am on the dot without fail. I need to implement any changes with caution as she is very particular about change to routine. Any suggestions welcome! 🙏

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Barleysugar86 · 17/09/2024 01:37

That is very early... my seven year old starts getting pjs on at 8.30, lights out is between 9pm and 9,30pm. He sleeps through until 8am but once he's out he's out. Does co-sleeping help at all?

insomnia24 · 17/09/2024 02:30

@Barleysugar86 DD will generally wake around 6am no matter the bedtime unfortunately but we will try and push a little later.

Co sleeping would help but this seems a bit out of reach at present as she's very easily disturbed. I'm up multiple times a night with the 3m old so she couldn't be in with me/us and she's in a bunk bed. We have even considered her co sleeping with her brother (2) but he's a solid sleeper so are a little apprehensive in case this disturbs him too much 😬

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cuckooooooo · 17/09/2024 02:37

Definitely don't put her in with her brother. Totally unfair!

Sprogonthetyne · 17/09/2024 04:05

One parent sleeps in the bunk bed with her, the other in a room with the 2yo and baby? Been in the same room to comfort her as she starts to wake, might stop her from waking fully.

You mentioned her particularity about routine, is there any other quirks that might point to neurodiversity? Poor sleeping is common in neurodiverse kids, and many find melatonin helps, if you can get a prescription from a pediatrician.

insomnia24 · 17/09/2024 08:39

@Sprogonthetyne it would have to be DH who slept with her as I'm BFing the baby but he's 6ft 4" and unlikely to fit on the top bunk with her. I do think there is a small element of neurodivergence but DH won't have it. I mentioned to her school teacher last year too but she looked at me like I had two heads. She's very good at masking 😩

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insomnia24 · 24/09/2024 02:17

Anyone? 😢
Another week of 2.5 hours to get to bed and now up again at 2am for another meltdown to start all over again

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