2.5 yr old night wakings and newborn

[ChampagneLassie]

My 2.5 yr old has never been a good sleeper, has only slept through night a handful of times, and until a week ago our routine was when she woke I’d go in and comfort her back to sleep. She seems to have night terrors / is distressed.
1 week ago I had a baby and DP has taken over dealing with DD wakings. I’m now sitting with a sleeping baby listening to my daughter howling that she wants her mummy. She’s been up for 2hrs a night. I don’t think I can handle both kids at same time but I’m deliberating getting back involved with toddler passing baby to DP and hoping that baby doesn’t need feeding whilst I settle toddler. However I wonder whether if she realises I’m not coming she’ll stop waking and get more used to sleeping through.

I’m also conscious DP returns to work in 3 weeks and I don’t think he’s going to manage this level of sleep loss. We just really hoped DD 2.5 would grow out of it by now.

She's probably regressing a little since you had the baby. It's a tough time but she will grow out of it eventually. Is there anywhere else partner can sleep so you can put older Dd in your bed for a bit?
It's pointless you all being awake at night. If you're awake anyway can you deal with the night wakings and then just sleep in later & have naps in daytime? I was like table tennis between my toddler and newborn it was back to back one or the other I was just a zombie for a few months. Toddler sleeps through now. Not yet for baby hence me awake at this time sadly

Thanks @Wavescrashingonthebeach it’s hard isn’t it. We’ve got different bed options for sure. DD has a double so DP goes in with her, I could, I’m just a bit delicate post c section to manoeuvre and manage her and baby too. But soon, or with DP help.

Hi OP, similar situation here unfortunately. Have just created a new thread on this before I saw yours. Due another baby in a couple of weeks and 23 month old sleeps terribly with multiple wake ups in the night requiring one of us to go through to comfort them.

Sending solidarity and good to know we are not alone, but afraid I have no advice. Just hoping DC will grow out of it very very soon......!

Regression is normal. The best thing to do is just baby the toddler and let them feel.like they have not been replaced.
My DS will be 3 soon and I have a 3 week old.
DS regressed with potty training and needs pull ups when going out. He was fully trained in January so it is very hard.

In regards to sleep is it possible to bring DD into your room and bed so she is close. If she wakes at night she can see and feel you next to her. Thats what we have done with DS1. DS1 sleeps on the edge of the floor bed DH next to him then me and then Baby in moses basket next to me. We all sleep on the floor (been 4 years olf fooor sleeping - personal choice) so our sleeping space is larger. It works out great. DS1 if he wakes up he sees us cuddles DH and then goes right back to sleep. DS2 wakes for 2 feeds with nappy changes and he diea cry but somehow DS1 sleeps through it.

We are going with the flow. It Sony last forever. He will want hia own room one day.

Sorry @pistachiopastry @MixedCouple2 not sure why I only found your updates now. Thanks. It is hard. How are you doing now @pistachiopastry with new baby? I’ve let DP deal with toddler until last week he had to go away for 4 nights so I had both. I think actually it would be better for me to do that, toddler sleeps better for me, DP is rubbish on disturbed sleep so he’ll be better during day and now my baby is almost 10 weeks and she sleeps really well and I’m healed I think I can cope with it all. @MixedCouple2 ess right DD does feel pushed out and has also regressed to nappies having been toilet trained. She keeps saying to me “I’m still your baby” ah