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How do I help my one year old sleep for longer?

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Thumberline · 19/08/2024 13:21

Hi all, I am looking for advice on my one year olds sleep. She is nearly 13 months and wakes several times a night. We cosleep from around midnight but she is still wakes crying several times a night.
She is breastfed and feeds several times a night but this is recent thing she was down to once or twice a night. Is there anything I can do to get longer stretches again without too much crying?
She is very bright and has been walking since 9 months, says quite a few words and understands a lot. She has her molars so I don’t think it’s teething related!

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Thunderboltandlightningveryveryfrightening · 19/08/2024 13:23

Ds 9 months had me on my knees. Bf all night. Send dh in to settle him instead of the boob owner.. He slept through on the third night. And blossomed into an absolute cherub. Previously a tired, cranky little sod tbh..

otravezempezamos · 19/08/2024 13:25

Put dad in charge of bedtimes and overnights.

Thumberline · 19/08/2024 13:26

Thanks @Thunderboltandlightningveryveryfrightening the only problem is my husband is horrible on no sleep 🤣 in the three years we have been parents he has done one night and I decided it wasn’t worth it. I do feel weaning might be the way to go, I had only planned on breastfeeding for the first few months anyway.

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Thunderboltandlightningveryveryfrightening · 19/08/2024 13:29

It took 2 nights. How many nights of sleep are you owed??

WhiteJasmin · 19/08/2024 13:40

Same boat unfortunately. DS went through a phase of hourly wake so I gave up and put him in bed with me which saved me a lot of time to settle, etc. but now he refuses to go into the cot which makes sleep training difficult because the boy can cry a marathon if I let him "cry it out".
I have been pressured by in laws directly/indirectly to let my DS cry it out since my SIL's DD who is a month younger had been sleeping in her nursery since 2 months and is a perfect sleeper. Their method is leaving her in there, turn the baby monitor audio off and only go into the nursery if they can hear her down the hallway, enough to wake SIL up in her room. Not a method I prefer personally.
I'm trying to just be in bed with DS and let him roll around to tire himself out and eventually he will start fussing for sleep and I pretend to be asleep next to him so he can get the idea. Will see how this goes if it helps him to fall asleep by himself if I persist.

Thumberline · 19/08/2024 13:51

Thanks all, I will give this feedback to my husband, he gets woken by her too as she is so loud at the moment so maybe he will be willing.

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Brightandbreezey · 19/08/2024 19:56

I had the same with my now 18 month old. I didn’t mind so much as I coslept too and sometimes the night feeding was so brief I could snooze through it! But I’m now pregnant and need sleep and my nipples can’t take it anymore!
So my partner took over nights. I know your DH might struggle with it but honestly try and get him on board as it helps a lot. We did a very very gentle transition. I never refused boob but partner would always respond first. Sometimes DD settled sometimes she didn’t. We had 3-4 terrible nights where she was awake for hours but they have (thankfully) stopped now. I slept in a different room and partner
slept in with DD, called me through if it got tough.
3 weeks later she is fully night weaned (you don’t have to do this if you/your LO is not ready) and she sleeps in chunks of 5-6 hours. We still get 1-2 brief wake ups but DP now settles her instead. I found it tough and I miss cosleeping with my girl!! But it was just the right time for all of us!
Chat to your DH and make a strategy, if he’s working, can he take some time off? Can you role anyone else in in the day to help whilst you do your transition? Can you start on a Friday night so he can have a nap in the day if needed?
Good luck x

Thumberline · 20/08/2024 11:36

Thanks for all the advice, she miraculously only woke twice last night. She was less gassy than she has been lately and we seem to have fixed a constipation problem in the past few days so maybe (hopefully) this was the cause of the past few weeks.
If not we will look at dad taking over nights in a few weeks time. She is about to start nursery so we won’t change too much at once.

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