OK, I can't cope with CC - is there any other solutions?

[Pinkjenny]

I Just Can't Do It.

Dd is 11mo and still not sleeping through, but now not going to sleep in the evening either.

Help.

oh, pinkjenny, I saw your other thread. I'm sorry CC isn't working for you.

I assume you have the trusty "no-cry sleep solution"?

or what about gradual withdrawal. can give more info if you like.

I feel like because I am always the one that picks her up and puts her in our bed, she gets even more upset when I am trying to comfort/settle her because I'm not doing what she wants me to do.

Her crying is so distressing though, and I just don't know what else to do.

remind me, how bad are the night wakings? if it's just one or two, can you co-sleep for a bit to get some respite?

can DH take over the night wakings?

oh you poor thing.CC didn't work for us either, and in the end we just gave in to it and had ds in our bed every night for ages and ages. This is far from ideal but we'd tried EVERYTHING else.And actually, once we'd just made the decision not to fight it any more and concede defeat, we felt an awful lot better about it. Less of a failure, and more in control IYSWIM. Good luck whatever you do.

What's CC?

Sorry!

Controlled crying. Tired - to be honest, I'm not too bothered about the co-sleeping, but she is waking up earlier every night, and I am resorting to going to bed at 9pm so that she can get in with me and go to sleep.

Parkin - the night wakings aren't an issue, as I just put her in with us, the problem is the evening.

I would like to stop the co-sleeping, but I was happy to continue until the point where I feel like it is now affecting her evening sleep.

Sorry, I meant Perkin!

do you think she might be unsettled in the evening due to chronic overtiredness? We had a lot of unsettled evenings, and I think that was our problem - DD was a notorious 20-30min napper.

How does your DD get to sleep (rocking/BF/dummy) ?

Perkin - she does have a dummy at night. She is rocked occasionally as a last resort, but tends to wake up the second she is put back down. More commonly, she likes to stroke your hand and play with your fingers while she goes to sleep. The problem with that is you can be standing there for anything up to an hour while she does this, only for her to wake up either when you take your hand away, or an hour later.

She is a terrible napper, nursery struggle with her as she is such a light sleeper. However, we went to stay with in-laws on Sunday and she had two really good naps in the car - still couldn't settle her in the evening though.