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Baby sleeping in their own room.

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JS1995 · 14/08/2024 05:29

Hello,

We've moved our 9month old into her own room at night.
She's been taking her daytime naps in there since she was about 6 month old.
We're constantly getting up throughout the night cause she cries and won't go back to sleep unless she hold someone hands. Most of the time this won't take long and then we can leave again. But around 4-5am is the worst time for her. Then we're normally stuck in there for the rest of the morning.
Had anyone got any tips/advice for this!

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Galoop · 14/08/2024 05:46

Sleep training, and make sure she is getting the right amount of naps during the day as undertired or overtired affects night sleep. Do it right and hire a sleep consultant. Good luck!

Peonies12 · 14/08/2024 06:25

Look at Ferber method.

Brightandbreezey · 14/08/2024 07:44

Sleep training is not the only answer. Your baby is still so tiny, she’s only been outside in the world as long as she was inside!
she is just trying to communicate with you that she needs something and that something is your presence. If all she needs is a hand hold you are doing pretty well! My LO at 9 months needed rocking or breastfeeding back to sleep every 1-2 hours!
Personally I’d set a little mattress up in her room so you have the option of just staying in there if she’s really struggling or just bring her back to your bed at 4/5 and see if she settles there (obviously look up safe sleep guidance).
She probably going through some separation anxiety and it will pass. Good luck!

RedRobyn2021 · 14/08/2024 07:55

It's kind of disgusting that the first comments here are telling you to sleep train your baby. She's a helpless baby for gods sake, sending a clear message that she doesn't feel safe or happy alone.

I would move her cot back into your room. I'm pretty sure your problem would then be solved.

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JS1995 · 14/08/2024 08:07

Brightandbreezey · 14/08/2024 07:44

Sleep training is not the only answer. Your baby is still so tiny, she’s only been outside in the world as long as she was inside!
she is just trying to communicate with you that she needs something and that something is your presence. If all she needs is a hand hold you are doing pretty well! My LO at 9 months needed rocking or breastfeeding back to sleep every 1-2 hours!
Personally I’d set a little mattress up in her room so you have the option of just staying in there if she’s really struggling or just bring her back to your bed at 4/5 and see if she settles there (obviously look up safe sleep guidance).
She probably going through some separation anxiety and it will pass. Good luck!

It's definitely is separation anxiety but it just horrible knowing that she feels like that. I don't do 'sleep training' as I don't believe it works and she never really needed anything like that.
Someone said to try and comforter (Teddy thing) but I don't really want it in the cot with her and she doesn't take to things like that, she does have a dummy.

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Oganesson118 · 14/08/2024 08:11

Don’t get a sleep consultant, they’re unqualified charlatans who will basically just tell you stuff you could read online and get you to do controlled crying.

In my experience these things just have to be ridden out. It’s horrible during the time but it passes. Maybe do what a PP said about setting up a mattress in with her for the early morning shift.

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JS1995 · 14/08/2024 08:11

RedRobyn2021 · 14/08/2024 07:55

It's kind of disgusting that the first comments here are telling you to sleep train your baby. She's a helpless baby for gods sake, sending a clear message that she doesn't feel safe or happy alone.

I would move her cot back into your room. I'm pretty sure your problem would then be solved.

I don't do sleep training anyways as I don't believe it will work. Plus the issue is separation.

I'm pretty sure that putting her back into her next to me won't work. As she to aware of her environment and every time we move she will wake up and she gets agitated. She slept so much better during the day in her own room.

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Ayeyourebeingadick · 14/08/2024 08:13

Do you ever have times you’re lying there anxious/can’t sleep/want comfort from your partner, white noise or whatever comforts her? Adults sleep with their comforts and loved ones and expect babies to sleep through/alone for 12 hours when we don’t. She’s tiny, they don’t want to be alone and it’s totally normal.

Jk987 · 14/08/2024 08:32

Bring her in with you if she wakes at 4am. Hopefully you'll both fall back to sleep.

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