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Rose1999 · 2024-08-09T17:49:22+00:00

Please tell me I'm not the only mum whose baby (7 months) doesn't fit the mould when it comes to sleep? She naps later and doesn't start her night sleep until 8:30pm (which is contact sleeping until I transfer her to her cot) She's going through an 8 month sleep regression too. I feel like a FAILURE!!!!

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Brightandbreezey · 10/08/2024 20:58

You are absolutely NOT a failure! Baby sleep is weird and hard. Plus the western world makes us believe nonsense about baby sleep… that they need to ‘self soothe”, that we shouldn’t feed to sleep, that they should sleep through the night from 6 months. It’s all complete BS and makes parents feel like failures.
8:30 pm is fine for your baby to sleep if that’s what works for her (and you). Contact sleeping also perfectly normal. Most adults sleep with another adult present, why do we expect babies to not want someone close when they sleep too?
I am only just seeing a change with my DD daughter at 18 months. Believe me up until recently she was awake every 1-2 hours. She still has nights where she’s awake and nothing will settle her back down. You just have to try your best to be there for them as they need you through the night as well as through the day.
Please don’t be hard on yourself. Follow helpful accounts on insta - I love Lyndsay Hookway and nurture neuroscience parenting. Much more realistic and scientific information on baby sleep than the crap you find on Google. Youre doing your best, it’s tough but your DD is relying on you and getting all the love and support she needs x

MixedCouple2 · 11/08/2024 13:48

Brightandbreezey · 10/08/2024 20:58

You are absolutely NOT a failure! Baby sleep is weird and hard. Plus the western world makes us believe nonsense about baby sleep… that they need to ‘self soothe”, that we shouldn’t feed to sleep, that they should sleep through the night from 6 months. It’s all complete BS and makes parents feel like failures.
8:30 pm is fine for your baby to sleep if that’s what works for her (and you). Contact sleeping also perfectly normal. Most adults sleep with another adult present, why do we expect babies to not want someone close when they sleep too?
I am only just seeing a change with my DD daughter at 18 months. Believe me up until recently she was awake every 1-2 hours. She still has nights where she’s awake and nothing will settle her back down. You just have to try your best to be there for them as they need you through the night as well as through the day.
Please don’t be hard on yourself. Follow helpful accounts on insta - I love Lyndsay Hookway and nurture neuroscience parenting. Much more realistic and scientific information on baby sleep than the crap you find on Google. Youre doing your best, it’s tough but your DD is relying on you and getting all the love and support she needs x

Agreed! DS1 STTN after 2years. Before then sleep varied a lot. 45mins - 6hours. Some babies are mkre sensitive and need parental support until they are developmentally ready.