Siblings sharing bed

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Hi all
i have a DD1 who is 2.5 years and DD2 who has just turned 1. Currently eldest is in a toddler bed but always ends up in my bed and youngest in a cot (same room). Neither will self soothe. Initially it was fine as little one was little but sleep is becoming a big problem. Eldest won’t sleep until little one is asleep and little one won’t sleep as they have bad fomo. The older the little one gets the harder bedtime is becoming . My eldest loves getting in my bed and I don’t think it’s because of me, I think she just loves the big bed. Considering getting one double bed for them both to share when the time is right for little one. I feel it will be easier as both need big help to sleep and I can sit in bed with them read a book and lie with both of them and not have one crying cos I’m attending to the other. Has anyone ever done this and is it advisable? Just looking for advice as both are very needy at bedtime and don’t see this changing anytime in the near future. Currently getting zero sleep with both of them eventually ending up in my bed at some point so I feel things can’t get worse haha

I think bunk beds or just twin beds in the same room might be a better option, you may find they wake each other up and it’s hard for them to share a duvet. My kids have always slept in the same room, they could have a room each but like sleeping together.

My boys very often fell asleep in my bed together. I don’t see what harm it can do

This.
and you need to be firmer and put them back every single time and ignore the neediness. Nighttime is for sleeping and that includes mums and dads.

Get them a double! They are so little. But get single duvets so they can make up their own nests and the transition to own beds will be easier in time. Maybe consider a bed that is actually 2 singles pushed together.

Or a 4 ft double that then becomes the single for one of them

I did this but two single beds pushed together and separate quilts. As they got a bit older we separated the beds but still shared a room until about 8/9 I think

2 singles that way when one or other end up falling asleep in your bed you get to swap for a nice empty child free single.
Story time a pre-sleep activity is on smallers bed and going-to-sleep starts when older gets into their own bed

We've got a day bed (pull out double) for our youngest. When I have to do bed time alone, I lay in bed with both DC in youngest's bed. Then I transfer oldest back to their bedroom when asleep. Little one wakes often and it means we can lay with them in the night. Makes it much easier.

Eldest will go to sleep alone if youngest is already asleep.

It works for us. I say do whatever gets you through the difficult younger years.

Ours are 5 and 8.