co-sleepers, when do you go to bed?

[BellaBear]

currently DS has a bath at eightish and then feeds and feeds and feeds in darkened bedroom until sparking out nine to nine-thirtyish, then we all go to sleep. I have dreams of putting him down and, I dunno, watching a tv programme that isn't scrubs.

I'm actually enjoying co-sleeping far more than I thought possible, and it allows me to shush him back to sleep easily but I wouldn't mind a bit of an evening!

I have visions of an eight o'clock bedtime forevermore!

How old is he?

When my daughter was very small I was more than happy to go to bed at the same time as her (around 9.30pm).

As she got older, we all started going to bed later (10.30 pm plus).

12 weeks

I lay in bed and feed gecko to sleep at 8 then I make sure she is in the middle of the bed and go downstairs for an hour or so before going to bed at about 10pm

BUT this has only been possible for the last week or so when I decided that I have to have some time awake away from her
So i decided that 8pm was her bedtime and I took her upstairs at 8pm, into bed and made her keep liying down and fed her and said nothing till she fell asleep
first night took 40 mins, each night after that has taken 25 - 30 mins which I dont think is too bad

gecko is 14 months

12 weeks!!!!!!
goodness, at that age the baby was just downstairs with us till we went to bed
baby would fall asleep and sleep in the pram downstairs till we went up

that wasy you do get an evening
I dont think you are going to enjoy going to bed at 8pm for a year or more
I would just pput him down downstairs and have an evening

I used to put DS in his cot at the start of the night, then just bring him into bed whenever he woke for the next feed.

yes, fair point. have been repeatedly told by HV that we must instill a nighttime routine NOW!!!!!!

plus, his longest sleep time is always his first of the night so for now I am quite happy to go to bed with him, I got 4 hours straight last night! Luxury!

MegBusset, good idea.

at that age we did as Trinity did and dd napped downstairs in the moses basket with us

Now dd (8m) is bathed at 6 and asleep in the cot by 7, leaving us with the glittering prize of An Evening.
The 10pmish feed she generally goes back in the cot afterwards but the first time she wakes after that she comes in with us.

It's been a bit of a slog to get here (NCSS) but it's certainly been worth it.

ncss sounds interesting, will investigate.

we've come a long way, ds has reflux and three weeks ago would only sleep on someone's chest, so horizontal on his side in my bed is great.

i do dream about more than four hours sleep but i know i am lucky to get that

i was just wondering about the future of co-sleeping really, if we don't manage tro get him into the cot

After you have fed ds down in the big bed, can you just sneak off? Like Trinity, just make sure your ds is in the middle of the double (I presume) bed.

Once ds starts rolling, you can try putting up bed guards. I don't bother with that because my ds would wake up crying anyway (if he would allow me to sneak off in the first place, but that is a different story). You can pad the area around the sides with cushions. Ds has fallen off the bed many times, with and without me in the bed. He somehow survived.

yes, sometimes I could do that, good idea.

right now it's not an issue as I want to sleep as much as I can! I'm just thinking about the future

ah, honestly, don't worry. If you can't leave her yet to sleep, you will be able to soon.

12 weeks is TINY

I have an 8 week old, our evenings consist of me feeding her in front of the tv. But it is SUCH a short time-I have older kids, I know!

don't think too much about the future

and don't fgs worry about a routine

I never instilled routines. I mean, we have a bath/story/bed thing but thats it

At 2 and 4, my older kids go to bed at around the same time every night, and if it wasn't for dd2 I'd be getting a proper night sleep.

They change so much. Just enjoy it!

thanks

not worried exactly, just thinking too much, as usual!