now lo is mobile when i put him in bed ...

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he sits and screams

whereas before the not being able to sit meant at least he snoozed off to sleep on his side

now with little effort even if really snoozy he gets up and cries

i left himn to cry 15 mins and then he fell asleep face flat down

did i do wrong?

he wouldnt be cuddled and pushed me off ..yet kept crying when left in bed

argh!!!

It's really tricky when they start moving or standing. My DD seemed to have a compulsion to stand even though clearly very very tired. He will grow out of it though.

Can you lay with him? I used to almost lay on top of DD to keep her flat. Personally I'm not a fan of leaving them to cry but that's a personal choice.

lay with him...would love to put in cotbed v difficult

yeah hate to leave crying but he is storng and bruises my breats literally by not wanting to be held and conforted so

at wots end when he is crying and he is sitting in bed

What about settling him on your bed and transfering to cot when asleep?

We used a roll out matress in DD's room when younger for that reason, settle her on that and put in cot when asleep as it saved my back.

Actually, she went a few weeks where I had to cuddle her to sleep when she learned to stand as it was litterally the only way to get her to sleep. Maybe he's stressing himself, perhaps you could try a completely different tactic for a week or so and don't even attempt to put him down awake.?? just an idea

You could try just lying him down everytime he sits up. He will realise its not worth the effort and settle down. If he's fighting you, it means he's ready for sleep and you should put him straight back down and pick him up if he carries on screaming. It might still take 15mins but i don't like leaving them to cry for more than a few minutes.

lie him down again and pat him until he is quiet , then gradually withdraw , to a chair nearby , then towards the door, then leave room , all for progressivley longer starting with immediately, 30 secs, a minute etc. 15 minutes is quite a long time to start with but you may have already built up to it. If he starts up you return, check on him and settle again if needs be. Don't put on light or pick him up.

You'll probably find that left to his own devices a minute or two is enoguh if he is tired and if he is still wide awake 5-10 minutes later he isn't tired yet anyway.

thanks lizs!!!