Routine

[Rose1999]

My 6 month old is not in a bedtime routine. My partner says I’m failing her.

Instead, she sleeps in my arms downstairs until I go up to bed and transfer her to her cot.

How do I go about starting a routine where she goes up to her cot earlier and by herself? I’m not ready for it as I like her with me, but I don’t want to fail her 💔

Your partner is a fuckwit.

edited to add - I was a very routine based mother and I know it’s not what you asked, but even so.

edited to add again, furiously - your baby is loved. It’s a safe bet that by the time she’s an adult she will be sleeping on her own. Until then, if what you do works for both of you, how can you be failing her? Your partner on the other hand seems to be failing at the “partnership” thing, and probably at the “parenting” thing too.

If your baby is happy, developing and getting plenty of rest then you are not failing her. Babies are supposed to be close to us, it’s survival, nurturing and good for them (and us!).
Tell your partner to educate themselves on what babies really need - Greer Kirchenbaum, Lyndsey Hookway and James McKenna are good starting points!

Why on earth do you need a routine if this is working for you both???

This is such a lovely thing to do til it actually starts disturbing the baby. I did this with mine til they were one and they ofcourse were used to it.

Do what makes you and baby happy ❤️🙏🏽❤️