Hi all I feel a little lost with this! My daughter is almost 9 months and overall has been an awful sleeper. At about 5.5 months it was so bad and we were co sleeping but not getting much rest (either of us) that I did some sleep training to get her to sleep in the cot. It worked really well and she even started sleeping stretches. She now independently sleeps for all naps and night sleep. Naps are of a decent length I feel and she genuinely seems rested. My issue however is the night wakings- she is a child that nothing ever seems enough in terms of trying to support her. So she might wake at 3 hour mark and I will feed her but then she will wake 2 hours then 1.5 then 1 and it’s endless. If I go to her cot and try to shush her (settling method from sleep training) it’s like it’s too stimulating and frustrates her, if I pick her up she will sleep but wake shortly after putting her back down, only sure method is to feed but it’s a cycle then.
I have looked up sleep training but a lot of it says how they fall asleep is what needs changing but that for us is already improved so unsure what tactic to use?
staying by her side and shushing at intervals seems to be making it worse, so is my only option to let her cry- I find that really seems to stress me and makes me more awake whereas a feed at least means we are all asleep quickly. But because she keeps shortening the wake interval I know it’s not sustainable.
does anyone have any ideas how to work on this in the middle of the night when her initial sleep is independent.