Please help! My 13 month old is waking multiple times a night and starting the day at 5am. The multiple wakes aren’t a new thing, he’s been a terrible sleeper since 4 months. But combined with the 5am starts we are now struggling.
I’m still breastfeeding and I think this is a big problem. I’m not sure whether to try to night wean first or cut his bedtime feed first, or do both at the same time.
I’m also not sure whether his daytime sleep is right. We are always having to wake him from naps.
He currently naps around 9/9.30am for a max of 90 mins, and then has a second nap around 2pm, capped for 30/45 mins. Bed around 6.30/7.
We cap his naps because in the past shorter naps seemed to lead to a better night sleep, and if he naps for too long we seem to end up with split nights. But now I’m wondering if he’s chronically overtired.
Later bedtimes do not work, we have tried.
I wouldn’t mind a 5am start if we were getting less night wakes, or if he wasn’t waking crying making me think he’s still tired! Likewise I’m not expecting him to sleep through all the time, but one or two wakes would be more manageable.
He’s still in with us because whenever we try to move him into the same room as his older brother he just disturbs him and then his brother ends up coming into us and it’s like musical beds. So we’ve stopped them sharing for now and at least oldest DS now stays in his own bed and wakes at a normal time.
Any advice welcome.