9 wk old - napping in the day,

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Hi

First post on mumsnet so I hope all you expert ladies can advise a first time mum!

Have a 9 wk old dd - she has reflux so the first 6 weeks were pretty grim - lots of screaming and not much sleep. Since getting gaviscon though she has got a lot better and is sleeping really well at night - just getting up once in the night for a feed and settling herself back to sleep in her moses basket pretty quickly.
Day time is a different story though! She will only sleep on me or in the buggy. I've invested in a sling but even in this she takes some persuading and will cry on and off for ten minutes or so before she drops off - similarly if I stand and rock her she will cry on and off and then I can get her to sleep. I'm happy with this just now and was determined not to get myself in a state about naps and routines and to give us 12 weeks to get to know each other and then look at stuff but am trying to think ahead. Will this get better of it's own accord do you think or will I have to help her along??
It would be great if I could get her down in her basket or cot during the day as at the moment I can't get anything done - not so worried about the housework which can wait but I do run a business from home. Should I just leave her to it and keep trying every few days to put her in her basket to nap and if she's kicks up a fuss, pick her up (which is what I'm currently doing?) Or should I be doing something else?
Sorry to be so clueless. I've just got lots of people in my ear telling me to "leave her to cry so she'll learn" which goes totally against what I feel is right, so would be lovely to get it sorted ourselves and prove all the "making a rod for your own back" people wrong!!

Thanks

Come over to our postnatal feb babies board- we can all help you then as we have babies around the same age- i cant answer you as my DD (8weeks) is my 2nd baby so she has been put down from day one as DS needs me- so she just falls asleep mos of the time- www.mumsnet.com/Talk/2330/501655?stamp=080406204726 here we are

hope to see you over there- were a great bunch!!!

You could try the shush-pat method (the theory is the patting and shushing distracts them from crying). Put DD down and shush and pat (works best if you pat the back) until she falls asleep. Cover eyes if she is over-stimulated. If she doesn't calm, then pick up carrying on shush-pat.

You could also try swaddling or a dummy?

All these worked a treat with my DD and DS. Good luck. By the way, a bit of crying is 'normal' and may happen even if your LO learns to self-settle.

Is the moses basket in the bedroom during the day or downstairs with you? In the first instance make sure its with you. My DS was the same, would fall asleep then be innediately awake when out in the basket. I put him into his sleeping bag for every sleep, so whatever your baby sleeps in a night (bag, swaddle etc) do the same in the day. I was always worried as he fell asleep on me and I thought I was in for real trouble, but they do get better. 9 weeks is very litle, they need the security. I wouldnt do controlled crying at this stage, too young, although even now you probably know the difference between distress and whinging cries!!