Sleeping arrangements

[worriedpenguin]

Boring one but looking for outside advice. Have a 3 year old and 1 year old, we live in a 2 bed house. Bedrooms on different levels, 1 year old is still in with us in a cot other side of the room. 3 year old has own room, been very happy in it and sleeping well until around 2 months ago.

LO now gets up at around 11:30pm and comes up to our bed. I don't have anything against co sleeping but they sleep on top of me and I'm back at work full time and honestly exhausted. Feel like we've tried everything, leading back to bed with no conversation and sitting in the room until they fall asleep. Reassuring chats and cuddles to sleep, nothing works. We've done the charts and praising when they do stay in bed. I'm at the point of wanting to move LO's bed into our room and hope that means we all get some sleep. Is this going to cause more issues? I'm lost and this is a rambling post but please god someone help.

My daughter is also 3 and she was doing the same thing. I got her bed moved next to mine in my room and she now sleeps well..I do have to emphasise to her it's her bed and she has to sleep in it and not come into mine. I already co sleep with my 18 months old so she's aware that's her brother's bed.

The difficult bit is she sleeps talks and sometimes my 18 months old is in and out of his sleep so I am always worried they'd wake each other up

My worry is them keeping each other up too, my 1 year old doesn't go down to sleep very well it can take over an hour. Then they end up in my bed.

Maybe the way forward is to move the toddler bed into our room and see if that helps. We are just all so exhausted and it's become the time I dread the most.

Can’t one of you sleep in your toddler’s room with her and the other in the room with the baby?

OOF, I really do feel your pain. I've got four and we were pretty strict on the first two (also they never seemed to be any bother in this regard) but DD2 was born when the other two were 6 and 7) and my god did she hate to sleep alone. She was a bit younger than 3 years but every night was a complete trial of getting her settled, sleepy, then backing out of the room on all fours in silence when you thought sleep had finally got her, I used to say to the older two "you have to creep to bed in absolute silence" We still had the one-year-old son in our bedroom, who used to sleep better than her, and when 18 months went to his own bedroom with no issue. She used to come in and then take over the whole bed, starfish style, thrashing about, talking, nobody had a good night's sleep. Family holidays were a nightmare "I'm not sleeping with her lol". We did however keep going on with the routine of putting her back in her own bed, we got a bigger bed too, which helped, and eventually she grew out of it. Youngest son did sometimes come in, not often, and much later, aged 5 ish and I was always happy to have him in, he was a peaceful sleeper, never moved about, I slept better with him in my arms than I did alone. It is not forever, do what you have to do to get a night's sleep !! XXX

Would she sleep better if you moved the younger child into her room . I presume he is still in a cot ? She may feel she is “ missing out” .