4 month regression

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I know there's nothing I can do but honestly I am a broken woman.

She was doing so well, had couple nights sleeping through, then some up once for a feed, absolutely great and fuck me this last week everything has just gone to shit.

Naps in the day are horrendous, pram walks, car just aren't cutting it.

Night time; she goes down great but literally at soon as it hits 21:00, 💥, all hell breaks loose.
I try to satisfy with a dummy before picking up, works for the whole of 30 seconds, pick her up she instantly falls asleep, I hold her till she's in a deep sleep, put her down, my arse doesn't even touch my bed and her eyes pop open she's flinging her legs, arms are going and I have to repeat.

I am doing this all night; I am getting no sleep😭

I can't remember my first being like this.

When the fuck does it end? I feel like this is worse than newborn.

Yeah she teased me with abit decent sleep.

I normally have to walk round with her and pat, rock in the day which is fine. If we're out she was (prior to this shit show) fine and able to fall asleep in pram etc.

When waking in the night I don't have to as she just instantly falls asleep once cuddled in.

I'm not brave enough to get rid of the dummy right now.

Nearly killed me on the first. With the second it was one mildly disturbed night. Why the fuck didn't the first come with that setting?!

Sending coffee and sugar and a sincere hope that it passes quickly.

@CelesteCunningham Thank you. No way just one night? 😭
I honestly can't remember with my first!

@kathrynb20 she hasn't slept in the sling for awhile now tbh. Day times I can manage it's just the night time, going to sleep fine on me with not having to do anything it's just keeping her asleep.

Safe cosleeping set up was the way I survived this! Then when she stirs you can just put a hand on her tummy or shush her,she'll realise you're there and go back to sleep (hopefully!)

@bravotango I have my older child in bed, whole other thread, so I don't feel it's safe enough.

@kathrynb20 thank you, which is the best way to teach resettling?

Also wondering how to teach them to settle themselves.

OP I feel your pain. My baby is sleeping for one sleep cycle in the day (if I’m lucky) and that’s after being rocked in the pram/taken for a walk. Night time she goes to sleep well on me, but wakes on average 5/6 times each night and all that will settle her is a feed.

After 2 months and 10 days of the 4 months sleep regression meaning wake ups every 25 - 45 minutes, we sleep trained. Worked within 12 minutes on night 1, slept for 7 hours. Took 7 mins on night 2, slept for 9 hours. I realise not everyone can sleep train, that's fair enough. But our method was if she cried, go in after 2 mins, stroke her belly until she was calm (she was calm within seconds) then same again after 2.5 minutes, then 3, and so on up until 5 minutes then keep going back every 5 mins until she sleeps. But it never went past the 4 minute interval, not once.

But I understand some people can't sleep train, it's a tough decision and I don't know what I would Have done if she was not so receptive to it. I couldn't have let her cry for hours.

But as I said, it took 2 months and 10 days to get to the point of doing it so I really tried to ride it out but was on brink of PND so was desperate.

Good luck.