Pampers Sleep App / Regression & Separation Anxiety tips that actually work

[Mummaneedswine]

I'm loosing the will to live. My daughters sleep has never been the same since the 4 month regression but now we are at 8 months it has become mentally and physically draining.

I never let my oldest cry it out when she was a baby because I hate hearing either of them cry, it truly breaks my heart but after the worst few weeks I have now had to try it with my 8 month old because she is fighting every nap, waking continuously all night and getting up at 4am. I've tried the pick up put down method and phasing it out too. She's clearly experiencing some separation anxiety because I can settle her and as soon as I leave the room she is inconsolable. She's waking up constantly crying through sleeps too. It took me almost 4 hours to get her to sleep last night.

Anyway the other day I purchased the sleep app from pampers but the nap times change and it seems to give some really odd advice or so it feels. She had a shorter nap yesterday so it suggested a 3hr 40 min nap for her second sleep? Before trying the app she had a 1-1.5 hr nap in the am and a 45-1hr nap in the pm and it's the best routine I found so far.

So my questions are...

Can you sleep train during a regression and what worked for you? The CIO method really bothers me and doesn't seem to be working. We are on night 3 and it's only got worse.

What are your routines for your 8month olds in terms of sleep? Do you keep all nap times the same or adjust?

Have you got any tips that actually helped you during this phase?

Thank you in advance

Ok, firstly the Pampers sleep app is bullshit. It's not based on any credible evidence. Ditch that for a start. Secondly, she is still SO tiny. It breaks your heart leaving your baby to cry for a good reason -- it's wrong and it goes against your natural instincts. It's bad for your baby and increases their cortisol levels. It sounds like she's got into a real state about sleep now because she's expecting to be left to cry. Could you try gently getting her to nap in ways that work for her for a while such as walking her in the pushchair? At nighttime could you try co sleeping following Lullaby trust guidelines? It's very safe by this age.

But whatever you do please stop with all the sleep training and trying to get your baby to sleep at times she's not tired.

Remember all babies are individuals and have different sleep needs too no matter what some crappy app or website may tell you.

Finally she's at a prime age for teething. So that can unsettle sleep.

Also just take a second to imagine how you'd feel if you didn't know why you were being left to cry alone in the dark..please don't do this to your little baby.