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21 month old wakes up at 4-4.30 am, has anyone cracked this??

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Danani · 10/05/2024 16:40

Schitts Creek Hello GIF by CBC

One sleepy mumbie (mum zombie) here looking for a friend.

My newly turned 21 month old has started waking up at 4-4.30 am every morning for the past 2-3 weeks. We've not changed the routine in any way shape or form, if anything, as a result, we've pushed bedtime to a bit later (7.30-7.45 pm, it used to be 7), and have capped the nap to 1.5 h (she used to sleep for as long as she wants, sometimes 2-2.5 h).

The schedule looks like so:

  • Wakes up at silly o'clock happy and full of beans, ready to start the day shouting something like "I FINISH SLEEPIN".
  • Does 1 nap of 1.5 h:
  • When in nursery (during the week) this is at around 12-12.30 pm till 1.30/2 pm.
  • When at home (on the weekends) she starts getting crabby and wants to nap as early as 9 am, which with distractions we manage to push to about 10.30ish. Wakes up by 12 pm.
  • Goes to bed at 7.30-7.45 pm on weekdays; and at 6.45-7 pm on the weekends, because of the earlier nap.

She loves her milk and still asks for milk before sleeps, so she has her little bottle and then I pop her into her cot. She puts herself to sleep within 5 to 10 min.

She does sleep well and does not usually wake during the night (of course, this too has changed the past 2-3 weeks and she wakes once or twice).

She has always been an early riser, 5-5.30 am is our usual; we've had spells of later wakes up at around 6 am; but this 4-4.30 am is a new low.

I know there is a sleep regression at 18 and also 24 months - could this be it???She's not putting up a fight going to sleep, but the sudden extra early rising and wake ups in the night are definitely new. She's also cutting her canine teeth at the mo, so I'm sure that's not helping either.

Anyways, just looking for some advice, or someone to commiserate.

It feels like her schedule is out of whack but I'm at a loss for how to adjust it. I don't think she's sleeping too much in the day; she's plenty active throughout the week and the weekend, so she cannot possibly be under tired.

Is this a phase? Is it a case of just waiting it out??

Oh, and she really really really started talking like a LOT. Her speech and language has basically exploded in the past 3-4 weeks. She knows a ton of words, and it feels like every day she has learned 4-5 new words; she's started stringing words together in little sentences so we have full on little conversations. When she wakes up, it almost feels as if her brain is buzzing with excitement over this newly found skill because she often greats me with a stream of chatter "moning mummy! I see window! Books! Door! Bear!" just whatever comes to her little mind. Could this be the culprit? she's just super excited that we can now converse??

Sorry this is super mega long! If you got this far, Thanks!!!

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Damnyourheadshoulderskneesandtoes · 10/05/2024 16:41

Sounds like she's ready to drop the nap tbh

InTheRainOnATrain · 10/05/2024 16:45

I don’t think it’s a given that you need to drop the nap. Both of mine did this yet still continued to nap until 3 even once ‘fixed’. The fix with both of them was a long haul holiday. Get them so out of whack and routine that it provides a hard reset. I didn’t book the holidays as a solution but it just so happened we had stuff booked anyway to take advantage of their last cheap trips as lap infants! But it works.

Danani · 12/05/2024 04:52

Bump

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Dapplegreymare · 12/05/2024 04:56

It’s horrendous. DS was generally 5-530am with the odd 430 thrown in. If I started a day with a 6 in it I was thrilled.

I would say all dropping the nap would do would be to end up with them falling asleep at 2pm.

Its really difficult and I’m not sure what the answer is.

Fraaahnces · 12/05/2024 05:15

It’s getting light earlier. Blackout curtains?

Danani · 12/05/2024 06:01

We have blackout curtains, I’ve tried pitch black, I’ve tried super gentle night light, I’ve tried white noise, I’ve tried gro light.

She wakes up and starts shouting and appears in good mood and ready to start the day, happy and bubbly. But within a couple of hours is asking for milk and drops off as she has her bottle. So she is still tired.

Like this morning, got up at 4.30, was adamant she didn’t want to stay in her bed or come to ours, but by 5.20 was asking for milk. I gave her a bottle (I know, she doesn’t do milk from a cup…) and she dropped off. I’m hoping she sleeps till 6.30-7am, and then has her normal nap at 1ish. And I’ll probably cap it at 1h. But why are we doing this dance?? She doesn’t want a bottle first thing when she wakes up, but an hour or two is happy to have some and fall asleep!

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Purple89 · 12/05/2024 06:34

Are you me OP?! Same boat here but my DD is 18 months. I know my DD isn't ready to drop her nap and it doesn't sound like yours is either.
I'm putting mine down to new skills. My DD's normal sleep is the same as yours with early starts but not quite as early as this.
Following with interest but I'm wondering if I just need to ride it out. Hope someone comes along with better advice OP but solidarity in the meantime.

Ps. Loved the gif!

YouveGotAFastCar · 12/05/2024 07:21

Mine is 2.5, doesn’t nap and is still up for the day around 5:30. It was 4:30 for ages. We have black out blinds, he’s got books and can listen to audiobooks… he’s just awake early, I think!

UnwieldyRhombus · 14/05/2024 06:53

Anecdotally...

My first gave up on napping really early. I can't remember when (definitely before two years old) but I know she refused to ever nap at nursery (she went 2 days a week from 12 months) and then stopped napping on her grandad day and then on my days with her not long afterwards. I was a bit put out by this as she was a very chatty and energetic child and I needed that break, but once I gave in and stopped trying to have her nap she slept 7pm-7am, which she still does most of the time at 4 years old. It was fantastic.

Unfortunately I had a second baby who still does not sleep at night six months in, but there were some good times for a long while there 🙃🥴

Hoping things work out for you soon!

plasq · 14/05/2024 20:36

Could you try a Groclock?

She's probably a bit young, but the storybook and visual prompts can persuade little ones it is not time to get up yet?

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