Stopping co sleeping

[Remo22]

Since my DS has been born, was first lab to the Nicu, and after that when you came home, who is sleeping normally in his spot, but when the weather started to be more cold, and thunderstorms when more coming, who used to be very scared of noises and woke up every half an hour or even less long I'll try to perform a sequel sleeping, which worked really good for us now the problem is his father is mostly away for work so it doesn't doesn't cause us any problems when it comes to sleeping in the same bed but what can I do now that it is close to six months and his father may be coming anytime soon can I abruptly stop cosleeping?

The problem is, the baby is very dependent on BF at night and this is the most effective way to calm him down when he wakes up at night do you think is it possible to stop posting abrupted to try to make sure speed back in his foot? Does anyone have any experience in this point and any specific tips and how to get him to sleep back in his bed without causing any problems I don't have a baby monitor, but I have not set it up yet.

I don't mind the baby sleeping with me in the bed but I'm just thinking about my DH when he comes back.

And is still sleeping for too long gonna be a bad habit for the baby?

Hi op, not sure I understand all of what you've written, but I think I get the gist.

I would hope that your dh would be understanding that this is how your child feels safe and secure to sleep and that it helps both of you especially with breastfeeding and many, many breastfeeding mothers co sleep with their child. It's also not recommended to move a child into their own room before they are 6 months old due to the risks of SIDS. So your child should ideally be in beside you until they are at least 6 months old.

We have a small bed so I didn't like co sleeping with dh and ds at the same time, I used a next to me crib so we were co sleeping but not bed sharing and that worked well for us as a middle ground. Now ds is 15 months and we co sleep if he's struggling with his teeth or is unwell or just having a sleep regression and dh sleeps on the sofa or in our spare room. I know others who have invested in a bigger mattress and used a floor bed so they could all fit in together and their children have gradually migrated to their own beds in their own time.

Are you worried about your dh reaction or is he normally supportive? It sounds like you're doing most of the parenting yourself so it sounds like he needs to come back and try to fit the routine you've worked so hard to build, not put you under pressure to create a new one in no time.

I am truly sorry for the inconvenience. It's because I have been using dictation text.

That's why it came off very unorganized with lots of grammar and spelling mistakes

Yes, you understood what I'm saying correctly I was saying that when my DH comes back, how will he be able to sleep with us in the same bed? He's mostly understanding and he could leave the room for us and sleep on the sofa but I find it kind of harsh that I kick him out of the room when he has been traveling for months .

Yes, to be honest, I'm doing almost 100% of the parenting and he's helping financially and psychologically but he is not physically being present

Yes DS feels safer with me

Are you able to talk to your dh about it before he comes home so you're able to explain the set up you have and why it's working and see how he feels about it? Then hopefully he can reassure you that he doesn't mind? What about getting an attachment that can go on the side of your bed? Personally I know how tough breastfeeding is and I know I find the sleep deprivation tough and there's two of us parenting 5050, so I think you do what YOU need to, to survive and promote the feeding. Is your dh likely to be home for a bit and then away again? I personally wouldn't be completely disrupting your routine for the period he's home but maybe giving him as much info as possible on the routine so he can slot in a little easier?

We're still bedsharing (myself, hubby and toddler)...she's four shortly and no plans to stop any time soon! Bedshared with all three of mine. No regrets 💕

That's amazing ❤️
I don't mind at all in all aspects but i hope it does not affect the intimacy of me and dh

Is it manageable?

Wow. Hoping there is a few years between the children so you didn't have them all in the bed at once! I'm really struggling with this as we bed share with our 20 month old but I feel it's important they learn to sleep on their own as they wake up after 2 hours of putting them down every night. How did you get bed time to work? Do you all go to bed at like 8pm??

@Lavender14 yes he will visit for a while not staying for the whole duration

I never opened the topic but you are correct i should try and talk to him about it

Yes Bf is so difficult esp during winter

I thought about getting an extension
Does it make a difference ?

Thank you for your words❤️ you are making me feel like i am doing a lot for someone to handle,

For us the extension made a difference because we have a double and with both of us and ds in the bed it was just a bit too much of a squeeze... especially since ds moves so much in his sleep! So it meant he was right beside me but not in our actual bed if that makes sense.

As for the intimacy, we were also able to put the side up on the next to me crib so I was able to put ds down, turn on the monitor to watch from downstairs and we made the most of our child free time! I know others who use a floor bed or put their wee one down initially on a mattress on the floor so they can watch them without needing to be in the room and no danger of baby falling off an edge.

@TryinghisbestDad My other two children are 14 and 16 so they definitely don't share the bed with us!!! 😂
Little one goes to bed about 8pm in the "big bed", we both go up around 10pm.
Older parents (43 and 48) so that's not too
early for us!

@Remo22 It's manageable for sure, you just have to be creative (when you can be).

@Sooooootired01 😂😂😂😂
And your user name says it all

Thank you so much
God bless

@Lavender14

I will definitely talk to dh

I was thinking of the bed mattress for later on but we need to relocate for that since our flat is too small for it

The extension idea seems really cool honestly i will give it a try

Am glad so many people are willing to co sleep and that its not as bad as some people view it

thank you dear

Glad to hear they grow out of it eventually!! Thank you!