3 months without sleep - any advice?

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My little boy is three months old and still waking constantly through the night. The longest stretch he will sleep is around two hours, but as the night goes on we are lucky if we get one hour.
My partner and I are both shattered ( he works long hours but we do the nights in shifts at the weekend). I've not been able to nap in the day as my baby will only fall asleep on me and then wakes up within ten minutes of being transferred.
I feel like everyone I speak to has babies the same age that either sleep through or do five/ six hour stretches- I'm at a point where a three hour stretch would be a dream!
He won't settle in the bed next to me and as I'm formula feeding there isn't really a benefit to bed sharing.
Can anyone offer any advice? Or had the same and

I don’t have any advice but I understand how you’re feeling. I have a 7 month old who until last week, had not slept for longer than two hours in one go since she was around 2 months old, and before that the longest was 3.5 hours. Also unable to nap in day as baby will only contact nap.
It is so hard when everyone else has babies who sleep for longer or complains that their baby wakes once or twice a night!
we are now doing some gentle sleep training which is slowly making a difference, although it’s usually not recommended on babies as young as yours.
Does he seem to be in pain/appear very uncomfortable, does he have reflux? That can sometimes cause frequent wakings. Or possible allergies? I have a friend who’s baby woke frequently until he was diagnosed with cows milk allergy and switched to dairy free formula.
I hope things get better for you soon.

I followed gina fords advise but v loosely, I fed dd 7, 10, 1, 4, 7 , 10

The last feed was the biggest split in parts so she can take the highest quantity.

After 3 months she slept through the night , as she had adequately eaten/drank through the day.

My dd had awful colic at a point. I also switched from aptamil to kendamil and things got easier.

I hope things improve for you 🙏

I'm sorry OP, I don't really have any words of wisdom but some empathy - my dd is 9 weeks and is very similar to your ds. I'm truly exhausted and going out of my mind a bit.
Could you arrange to have a conversation with a sleep consultant and see if they have any tips? As another poster has said, it's probably too early to sleep train (if you are even thinking about that!) but a conversation might give you some ideas or reassurance etc that you can try to try and shift things a little? Do you have any friends or family who could come round during the day to take him so you can have a rest?
Sending you love and solidarity!

Do consider allergies as above especially if they have any rash/bloating. Will they sleep in a moving car or pushchair? Baby may be overtired which then makes it harder for them to sleep, I found paying for Huckleberry app's sleep window tracker really helpful, I threw baby in the pushchair even if screaming whenever it said it was naptime, that plus a night time routine with bath, then darkness/red light, white noise and then getting out in daylight first thing in the morning helped things start to get better, though the root of the problem was cmpa for us. It's gruelling I feel for you, I hope you have someone who can watch them or push them out for a nap while you have some catch up naps.

Aww OP I feel for you. We had the same with my little boy until he was 8 months old and we used an altered version of Ferber (which I know isn’t for everyone, but worked for us).

We had to get reinforcements, I would take the baby to my mums or MILs and then I’d sleep upstairs or they’d come to my house and I’d nap. We tried everything and spent a fortune on sleep aids until we accepted that we had a baby that didn’t sleep and tried to make changes that allowed us to sleep while someone else minded the babs. Hope you get some sleep soon!