How to safely co sleep with 11 month old?

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Hi all,

DD2 is no longer liking sleep... At all. She is awake all through he night. It's been weeks now and she just will not settle in her cot. I'm wondering how to safely co sleep with her? The thing is when she is in her cot during a wake stage of the night after I've put her down after cuddles/bottle etc, even if I just put my hand on her back she settles, stops crying and falls straight asleep, she's clearly exhausted and definitely needs me. I want to be there for her but I physically cannot rock her all night or just stand at her cot which is what I am currently doing! I'm happy to co sleep if done safely as we are all desperate for sleep including my DH and DS1 (4). I'm just confused about advice and what not to do. Is it safer now she's nearly 1? I've read the SIDS guidelines etc but I should say I didn't ever co sleep with DS1 till he was about 15 months and walking as I was petrified of SIDS so really unsure on how to/what to do/what's safe etc.

Any advice would be appreciated:)
(Apologies for any typos or grammatical errors, I'm on my phone and shattered!)

i think very safe at this age. Both my DCs co-slept some of the night/all of the night with us at this age. Usually in the middle so they can’t roll out of bed. I once rolled onto my DC1 arm, he immediately woke and shouted.

Of course always assuming you don’t drink or take drugs before going to bed!

Both of my DC co-slept from birth until about 2ish tbh. We don’t drink at home or smoke and I’m quite a light sleeper if there’s a DC in the bed. Most nights they would go down in their cosleeper or cot and then end up in our bed. We used a sleepyhead on top of the bed when they were tiny and still doing night feeds and at around 1yo I would just put them in the bed when they woke up in the night and wouldn’t settle. We have a quite firm mattress and I used a light, thin summer duvet and wore an extra layer myself or thicker pyjamas to stop them getting too hot (on cool nights). I also had a thick firm memory foam pillow I used to stop them rolling off if I was in bed alone. I checked I could breathe through it with my face in it but it is actually too firm to squish right into.
Now they’re 5 and 3 and sleep all night in their own beds so you won’t ruin their sleep for life. I found everyone was best looked after when we could sleep and I had full confidence in my judgement and risk assessment.

Yes, much safer now than with a newborn. Just bear in mind they run much hotter than us so work out how to manage that.