14 months of nightime hell 😭

[BecomingMum2023]

My little boy is 14 months old and has never slept more than 4 hours. He has never even had a fluke night. We have tried everything to stop him waking up screaming every few hours. He goes to sleep in his cot at night without being rocked etc and that hasn't helped him settle himself when he wakes up again.

He will cry and scream until he is given milk, even when he has had a bottle before bed or just a few hours before. Sometimes putting a dummy in is enough and he's goes back down but will often wake again after 15 minutes. We have offered water, refused or just given him a little. He ends up in our bed every night as we can't go into him so many times a night, we need sleep too!
But in all honesty he's no better in our bed.

Is this normal? What can I do without CIO. I feel like there is something wrong? He has 2 naps a day for up to an hour each time. Wake window up to 4 and a half hours.

I need help 😭

[TashieWoo]

I think I’d try going down to 1 nap, I’m pretty sure my DD was on 1 nap by 14 months and that switch improved night time sleep.

[TheShellBeach]

Get the Ferber sleep training book.

[Yourethebeerthief]

You need to sleep train. You don't need to leave him crying but you do need to sleep train him.

[Brightandbreezey]

Hey! To answer your question yes it is “normal”, stressful and tiring yes but completely normal. Is there anything else going on for him? Teething? Change in routine? Nursery? Learning new skill?
My nearly 14 month is the same - never slept more the 4 hours and even that is uncommon. She usually goes no more than 2 hours. It’s hard work but it is normal.
She is down to one nap a day but has been taking longer naps than usual so think this is affecting her night sleep. Going to try and gently wake her earlier today to see if this helps.
I wouldn’t sleep train either. I’m just trying my best to roll with it. Cosleep, get early nights, sleep when I can. I even pop DD back in a sling some nights to get her to sleep. She BFs at night too on demand. She needs/wants comfort and I don’t see that as a bad thing, just try my best to give it to her.
They will get there one day. Hope it gets better for you soon x