Having an absolute nightmare with 10 month sleep regression (DD actually just turned 11 months as of it matters). We don’t want to sleep train but equally I have the strong sense from various experience that she would just escalate in crying anyway. Recent cold, plus learning to crawl a week ago leads me to really want to exercise as much empathy as possible whilst not infrequently now being woken once an hour throughout the night.
I am cosleeping in as much as DD is in a side car cot next to me in bed. The side is off the cot so other than being on her own mattress she is next to me. My question is, if she were fully in bed with me would things be any better or are we basically there anyway? I am breastfeeding (twice a night) but for whatever reason DD isn’t able to feed on her own..maybe I should’ve encouraged feeding lying down sooner but my boobs are so big it always felt harder so I still have to sit up with her to do that.
I just see a lot of posts saying that cosleeping made things bareable and I suppose compared to separate beds it is a big difference even as we are. I’m just wondering if fully bringing her into bed with me would make us any gains in comfort or rest at this point.
maybe I should add that last night was the first time she actually crawled to me in bed so now we will obviously have less scope to stay separate even if I wanted to. My hopes of putting the side back on the cot as night wakings decreased and the first stint lengthened are starting to seem niave. I don’t really mind, she is likely to be our only baby and I know I’ll be sad when night feeds end (isn’t motherhood ridiculous) but I would also like to survive and function in the present as best I can. 😮💨