Could someone please explain the basic principles of the No Cry Sleep Solution?

[bluenosesaint]

...and does it work?

I don't want to go down the Controlled Crying route and have been advised that this technique is much kinder. Can anyone tell me the basic principles and the basic structure to follow?

Has anyone used this technique and do you recommend it?

Dd is 8.5 months btw.

Anyone?

I'm afraid you really need to read the book - can you borrow it from a mate or the lib? or buy a cheap secondhand copy on ebay?

basically she helps you set up new sleep associations that don't involve you constantly being there - we introduced a bedtime routine, sleepytime music, a comfort blanket etc, the ideas of which are to help 'cue' dd to sleep without her needing a nork in her mouth .

it works very slowly but it does work - Having A Plan is half the battle tbh.

Heh bluenosesaint, I'm on tonight to ask 'does no sleep solution work', but looks like you beat me to it.

My ds is 9 months and I've read half the book and am currently trying to introduce a comforter, which is being flung across the cot!!

Basically you are asked to pick a few of her ideas and try them out for a minimum of 10 days before giving up.

We moved country last week, so things are slightly complicated. I don't really want to change things and then have him either have negative associations with his new home or with the new thing I've introduced.

Its really about getting your child to go to sleep on their own - so slowly removing the feeding or rocking to sleep association.

DS wasn't at all interested in a comforter, so he doesn't have one, but I found it a very gentle, not bossy, way of doing things.

Totally untraumatic to either of us, and within 3 weeks we went from feeding to sleep every night to him going to sleep entirely on his own. He's now a totally bombproof sleeper who will go to sleep in any cot.

Oh my god cmotdibbler!! How did you do it?? I mean really step-by-step!

First of all I started doing the thing where you break their latch when they've finished feeding, and put him in the cot as he was really nearly asleep, and moved that back so that he was going into the cot more awake.
When he went into the cot I read a story, then said 'sleepy night night'.
At first if he was still awake at that point, I was sitting by the cot holding his hand, and then gradually moved away night by night. If he cried or stood up, I cuddled him and laid him down, saying sleepy night night.
Once I was outside the door, I then slowly closed the door.
I did have to spend 20 minutes or so a night doing it at first, but I really feel that its been worth it as he only has positive associations with sleeping.
Now he goes in the cot, has his story, then lies down and sleeps. Its a nice portable routine in that we can do it anywhere.

And what age was he?

10 months when we started

what do you do if he stands up and immediately starts bawling his eyes out when you lie him down? i tried it and even when he was asleep he was awake within seconds! i would love to get my own bed back

Picked him up and cuddled him till he was calm, then laid him down again. To begin with he needed me to keep contact with him to keep calm, but then I was able to stop that too.

The NCSS is great in that it talks about successful co-sleeping and stopping co-sleeping if you want to

maybe there is hope then, thanks cmot

I hope it works for you. It did seem a bit neverending at the time, but we're very happy with the approach we took.

Thanks for the replies

We already have a good routine for settling dd to sleep and she goes to bed awake, settling herself off to sleep happily within minutes.

My problem is night waking. Dd is in the cot at the side of me but we are putting her in her own room tonight. When she wakes through the night i usually put her in bed with me and thats where she stays until morning as she won't go back in her own cot. She grazes throughout the night.

So, my question is, how do i get her to go back to sleep after night wakings? How do i not feed her if thats what she wants?

Do i need to break the feeding association at night? How do i do that?

And did you try out lots of the suggestions before coming up with the one that worked?? Sorry for gatecrashing