Moving baby to own room early

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Hi, I'm hoping for some advice please! Has anyone moved their baby to their own room earlier than the recommended 6 months?

Naturally I'm worried about the increased SIDS risk, but it's getting to a point where I just don't see how we can keep our little one in with us for 6 months.

She's 3 months now but she's a very very active sleeper. I've found it difficult to sleep myself because she moves around so much and she's so bloody noisy! I can handle that and would have gladly carried on, but the next to me crib is becoming an issue. She's not a big baby but because she moves so much she's now hitting the sides of the next to me crib with her arms and legs and it's started waking her up.

I won't consider moving her before 4 months because I know 2-4 months is the highest risk time for SIDS, but I'm not sure how far we will get past 4 months if I'm honest. I can only see it getting worse as she gets bigger if it already seems like the next to me crib is too small.

I have tried everything I can think of. For context, she moves so much that I put her in the crib with her feet at the bottom and I wake up and her feet are at the sides and she's completely horizontal. She's turning a full 90 degrees (or even 180 a couple of times) in the crib.

We tried swaddling her but she absolutely hates it and just won't settle. She won't even have a blanket over her, if she can't move her legs freely she kicks and cries hysterically until I uncover her. This is also a baby who barely cries for any other reason, she just hates not being able to move! Our health visitor said not to stress about that and just let her sleep in a vest and sleepsuit if she's happy. She said if she was too cold we'd know about it. But she's using her legs to kind of push herself around the crib so that's the main cause of the issue.

We have a bigger cot ready in her own room where she'd have a lot more space, but the cot won't fit in our room.

Is there anything I haven't tried?

Thank you if you've read this far!

I think it's completely normal how much your baby is moving. My DC is 11 months and she used to do that. I read that it's their way of learning about the space they're in. My DC also hated being swaddled so I just put her in those sleeping bags with arm holes (sorry can't remember what they're called right this minute).

It’s normal for young babies to move lots and make noises in their sleep, you might find she calms down as she gets older. If you want to move her into the cot in her own room, is there space for one of you to sleep in there with her until you feel confident letting her sleep alone? If you’re worried about her being cold, Tu Clothing see lovely fleece lined sleepsuits which my little boy likes (he didn’t get on with sleeping bags) https://tuclothing.sainsburys.co.uk/product/tuc143633850?clickSR=slp:term:fleece%20sleepsuit:1:209:1

It's really normal for them to move lots. It's just one of those things. My soj is exactly the same.

Can one of you sleep in her room with her, if you want to give her more space?

My son kept doing the leg pushing thing even in a cot, though, so he was still active, and he'd wake himself up because cot sides are harder than the Next To Me sides. He does the same on the wall near his bed, now he's not in a cot.

I think it might be something to prepare yourself to get used to for a while, if I'm honest, but I wouldn't have considered moving him early. It wasn't worth the risk to me. It might be to you, which is fine, but it might not solve the problem, and it could make sleep worse.

Mine didn't accept sleeping bags, padded sleep suits or swaddles - he's always been in pyjamas. He doesn't like to be restricted because he likes to move! And it sounds like yours is the same. At two, it's less frequent now, but he does still move often.

Thanks so much for the replies, it's really reassuring to know this is normal!

It's not my sleep I'm bothered about, more that she's waking herself up hitting the sides of the next to me crib. But it sounds like she'd quite possibly do the same in a cot anyway so will just keep her with us.

Mine were from day one in their own room. No issue whatsoever, I had the angel care monitor for peace of mind.

My children were born in the early 1980s, so different times. They were only in the same room as DH and me for the first few days after coming home from hospital, then they were put into their own room, with a baby monitor. So, from about 2 weeks old.
I don't know how parents can possibly sleep with a baby in the same room. I don't think I could, but I suppose you just eventually get so tired you stop noticing the disturbance.

DD was exactly the same. She went into own cot at 4 months. She was getting disturbed often, but once in her bigger cot was much happier, slept better and woke happy and chatty.
I cried for the first three nights, I wasn't ready. But she was.
I put her in those baby gro things that are like a wearable sleeping bag as she would kick off any covers, then get cold and wake up... She was happy in that as she could still move as much as she wanted.

We moved DD at 4 and a half months for the same reasons. I did a fuckton of research about SIDS anyway (I am a scientist) and concluded that it was fine for us. We all slept a lot better after the move.

If you did move her do a reverse baby monitor so she can listen to you guys breathing.

I didn't need a baby monitor to hear my DC crying I woke up at the slightest squawk