Ferber not working

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Posted a while back looking for advice on Ferber for twins. They’re are now 8.5 months old. So, in the end I couldn’t find a more “gentle” method anywhere so we had to go with ferber. No adjustments, following it by book. We are on night 12 and they are still waking up screaming all through the night. They are simply inconsolable. We give them calpol before bed because they are teething. Is it pointless trying to sleep train when they are teething? If so, tell me when are babies NOT teething? Sorry I just don’t understand. Is there a tiny window for prime sleep training age and otherwise don’t bother? Because it would have been good to know that beforehand. I am so tired so frustrated and absolutely broken from listening to my babies cry for almost two weeks with no results. Why isn’t it working?

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For teething my favourite combination is anbesol on the gums and calpol before bed and that has given me slightly longer stretches at the beginning of the night. But for the sleep I don’t have an answer for you sorry, just sending you some sympathy as I’m up with my 8 month old too, for a change I don’t think he is actually teething but now has a stuffy nose. Hope someone is along with some advice soon and the nights get more bearable soon

Also up with my 8.5 month old. Also is teething. But he's my third baby and I know that 8.5 months - 10 months has been been the absolute pits for us sleep wise with my last two and it's happening again. Tricky sleep is quite common at this age as there are huge emotional and development leaps going on for them. It's hard but I promise it passes. Tricky when you're in it. Can't advise on feber as we've done alternative methods (Sarah Ockwell Smith) but sending strength. It gets better!

Mouthing is actually a reflexive behaviour that babies do inside the womb. They then continue to do this when they enter the world. That's because it activates the parasympathetic nervous system, which is, essentially, a system that helps to calm a baby down. People confuse this behaviour and think their babies are teething.

if you pick them up and soothe them, most of the time they will then calm down as they were looking for something to settle them.

if you read the scientific literature on the subject (not what some people say on here or badly written newspaper reports) you will see that many paediatric experts agree that cry it out in babies under 18 months or so is damaging. Becoming inconsolable means that cortisol is being produced which is a stress hormone.

I don’t know what you are supposed to do if you have twins as you can’t hold and rock both babies to sleep. I would ask on a twin forum for the experience of mums of twins who didn’t use cry it out.