Can't put 3month old down day or night...help

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I need advice please folks... since ds was born 3 months ago he will not go down to sleep in the day, he has to be held or carried in a sling or carrier.

He isn't the happiest baby, he has reflux ( that's a thread in its self)

ive hurt my shoulder and now I'm stuggle to pick him up now. He won't even go in the bluncer or play mat or in the next to me for a nap. im doing everything one handed But Weirdly he would go down at night, admittedly it was late around 10 but then he will do the usual up every 2 hrs but this last week he wont sleep in his bed ( next to me)
He will fall asleep on us, we wait till hes zonked out and then transfere him, within mins he is wide awake and we have to start the process again.

Ive tryed everything, putting him down when he's in a deep sleep, transfering him after a few mins, white noise, pick up, put down, shush pat and ive let him cry and ive tryed co sleeping which i hate and i just cant sleep as im scared...He just want's to be held. Everyone says he will grow out of it and to just sit and hold him which isnt ideal as i have a busy life and another child.

I dont get a break in the day at all because he just miserable and im holding or carrying him in the sling and he only naps if i take him for a walk in the pram with as soon as the pram stops,he wakes up.

Also hes ebf and only going 2hrs, im hating breast feeding as im shattered and feeling thoroughly pissed off. Ive started to introduce formula as i want to stop bf.

Im at my whits end, im exhaused.
Anybody got any suggestions please

Sounds so tough, sorry it's been so difficult. I have no suggestions I'm afraid but bumping in the hope someone else will be able to help xx

Speak to your midwife, she may have some suggestions. Hopefully the formulae milk will help give you some time back as it's generally quicker to feed than bf and improve his sleep too.

You could try putting a piece of clothing you've just warn and using a hot water bottle to warm his cot before you put him down so he doesn't notice the change in location from you to cot so much. This worked well for us.

Have you tried cosleeping within the actual bed?

Formula may well make the reflux worse so I wouldn't assume that stopping bf would make your life easier (although combi feeding can be easier overall).

Have you tried placing him in the cot and keeping your hand lightly on his chest until he has settled back down? This and the hot water bottle trick worked well for my dd. Or you could hold his hand until he is fully asleep. Sending sympathies OP, you are doing a great job xx