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How do I sleep train a nine month old dd?

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squinny101 · 21/03/2008 19:26

Got a 9 month old dd. Has never slept through the night (is a reflux baby but a lot better). However, she is now waking up six or seven times a night. Has a couple of slugs of a bottle and goes back to sleep again.

Can you sleep train a baby of this age by doing the whole leaving her to cry business.

We are knackered and I go back to work next week so I need to get this sorted.

I'm weaning her so she is having maximum food in the day and she also has a bottle at 10pm at night (as much as I can get down her without her falling asleep).

Thank you!

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rooibosh · 21/03/2008 19:47

The books I have read say you can do controlled crying from 6 months. If you don't start in the next day or so, you may need to wait until you've been back at work at least a week or it could be too many disruptions at once for her. The idea of cc is you leave the child for increasing periods, starting at between 1 and 5 mins, and then doubling the time until it is as long as you feel ok with (no more than 20 mins at a time). You go in to reassure, either by cuddling, or by just a brief 'night night'
Hope things improve, no matter what you decide.

rooibosh · 21/03/2008 20:44

Oops, and a key thing is putting the child to bed awake each time, including at bedtime. But maybe you know all that.

PuppyDogTails · 21/03/2008 20:49

I couldn't face CC so I read "No Cry Sleep Solution'" on my the 9 month old and 6 weeks on it's definitely working. It's no quick fix. It's all about finding new sleep associations and gradual withdrawal.

Nessamommy · 23/03/2008 16:49

If you are comfortable with the crying thing...do it! I just did it with my 6 month old...I thought it would be horrible but it was the best thing I have ever done! My son now sleeps from 7:00 at night till 7:00 in the morning without a peep...and he doesn't even cry himself to sleep anymore (this took about 2 days) and during the day he is now taking 2 naps (an hour and a half to two hours long each)...without me putting him to sleep. He may whine just a bit now during the day but it is so minimal. I read a book called "The Sleep Easy Solution". Was fantastic! It's a cross between full out letting them cry and being caring and supportive at the same time.

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squinny101 · 23/03/2008 17:50

Think I'm going to go with the whole controlled crying business. She must be knackered as she has fallen asleep already!

How do I go about though keeping her awake longer in the day so she goes 7-7 - any suggestions?x

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squinny101 · 23/03/2008 17:50

Think I'm going to go with the whole controlled crying business. She must be knackered as she has fallen asleep already!

How do I go about though keeping her awake longer in the day so she goes 7-7 - any suggestions?x

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MegBusset · 23/03/2008 18:11

What are her naps like?

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squinny101 · 23/03/2008 19:27

She has about two hours after breakfast then I put her down after lunch for an hour or so.

She went to bed about 5.30 tonight as she was just shattered. She will probably wake up at ten when I will feed her. Then she is up sporaidcally throughout the night for slugs of bottle then back to sleep again.

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PerkinWarbeck · 23/03/2008 19:37

how much is she having from the bottles? I think CC would be hard to do if you thought your DC might be hungry - how would you know when to leave them?

I did CC when my DD was quite young (6mo), but she had dropped night feed to 2oz once nightly, and all the other wake-ups were for fun and games, rather than to feed.

MegBusset · 23/03/2008 19:46

We did CC at 9mo when DS's naps were similar, it took a while for them to settle down but you will probably find that once she is sleeping better at night, she won't be quite so tired in the daytime. In fact soon after DS started sleeping through the night, he dropped to one nap in the afternoon.

In the meantime, maybe you could try delaying the morning and lunchtime naps by half an hour so she can hold out til 7ish for bedtime.

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squinny101 · 23/03/2008 19:47

I think she is feeding as a comfort thing. I've tried giving her a dummy but she just spits it out.

I literally can't get much more food down her in the day. So not sure how she can still be hungry. And if she's having a full nine oz's at5.30pm and 10pm is that not enough to get through the night?

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MegBusset · 23/03/2008 19:51

DS was still feeding 3/4 times a night when we did CC. As it happens, his daytime food intake didn't change much after we stopped the night feeds, so I guess they were just for comfort (he's BF so hard to tell how much he was actually taking).

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squinny101 · 23/03/2008 20:23

She just woke up so I gave her a weetabix and another bottle and put her back down. So hopefully that might help.

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Nessamommy · 24/03/2008 15:32

How much does she weigh? Because my son at 6 months weighs 17 lbs. The doctor said that at his weight he probably won't need to eat during the night and if he wakes up I could just let him cry it out a bit...unless he was crying REALLY hard, in which case he might be hungry. My son doesn't get up in the night anymore. He'll wake up around 4:30/5:00 for a feeding and go back to sleep. From what I've read, some babies (not all of coarse) wake up out of habit and if continue to feed them they continue to rouse more out of habit than hunger. Would you be willing to wean your daughter at nights?

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