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17 month old dummy thrower

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JVJ · 05/02/2024 07:51

My little girl has been independently sleeping from 6 months old. She has always been a fantastic sleeper and went 12 hours with no wake ups (she was bottle fed).
The only time her sleep was ever disturbed is if she was poorly which of course is understandable but it never took long for her to get back into her sleep routine when she was feeling better.
Shes now 17 months and for the past 2 months her sleep has been so interrupted. She goes to sleep with 2 things - her blanky (comforter) and her dummy (pacifier) she has started waking up through the night crawling to the end of her cot standing up and throwing them both over the side them screaming. We’ve been going in picking them up, laying her back down and she goes back off, but this can happen 4 times through the night (on a very good night) and up to 12 times a night (on a bad night). It’s absolutely exhausting. If I don’t go in and pick them up for her she just stands there and screams. I think what maybe started because she had a cough which was waking her up, has now turned into some sort of game where she knows if she does it we’ll go into her room. Any ideas on how best to deal with this? I was thinking of placing a few dummies in her cot so she can always reach for one and unfortunately she’ll just have to learn that if she throws blanky over the side that’s it. But then how long do I let her fuss for? At 17 months she’s so alert and I don’t want her to think I’ve just left her! At the same time I’m waking up feeling unwell from the lack of sleep!

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DustyLee123 · 05/02/2024 08:21

Lots of dummies in the cot. Failing that I’d consider putting her on a single mattress on the floor.

Daffodilsandsunshine · 05/02/2024 08:37

DD had a clip thing with a thick very short webbed strap that I attached to her nightclothes and could attach her dummy or teddy's ears to (sorry Ted!). That worked for us. Don't know whether they're still available nowadays?

JVJ · 05/02/2024 10:39

Yes we do have some dummy clips for her for through the day but it’s finding them short enough to feel safe to use at night I’m always afraid it’s a choking risk. I guess if the strap is really short and you can clip at the top of pjs we might consider thank you!

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FlippyFloppyShoe · 05/02/2024 10:54

Would you consider the short term pain of working through it so she isn't reliant on the dummy as will have to be done at some point?

JVJ · 05/02/2024 11:58

When you say work through it do you mean leave her to cry without dummy? Yes I think I’m willing to do that short term as painful as it’ll be if it means both she and I will sleep better for it. I don’t know whether to have a rule of how many times I go in before I leave her or if I just don’t go in at all, so hard now she’s older.
I think I’m leaning more towards just putting a few glow in the dark ones in the bed with her tbh so she knows they are there if she needs them. If she ends up throwing them all over then maybe I will consider taking them away at that point.
I know she can’t have a dummy forever and it needs to taken away at some point but I think since she’s been used to it since birth I am more comfortable with waiting until she can sort of understand why we’re taking it away. I’ve had friends and family who’ve explained to their little ones that older babies can’t have them anymore and they leave it for Santa to take away.

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FlippyFloppyShoe · 05/02/2024 12:17

If you were to try to remove it, I would start with daytime nap not having it first, good luck with it and hope you get some rest soon. Personally I would prefer sorting now and having unbridled sleep for however long (amongst other benefits), rather than having to put up with lost dummy's until you decide to take them away.

piokang · 23/10/2024 02:57

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