How to reduce night feeds and hourly wakings

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Desperately ready to try something to help my 9 month old sleep better at night. Currently breastfed and has a 3oz bottle of formula before bed (won't take a larger bottle). Starts the night in the side cart cot 19:00-22:00 and then from around 23:00/00:00 we cosleep and I lay on my side to get her back to sleep. We no longer initially feed to sleep, I lay with her and she puts her hands on me and falls asleep but every wake after which is almost back to 1-2 hours she is fed to sleep. Has 2 naps a day roughly 2-3 hours, will start in the cot but only has 30 mins so I then "save the nap" by feeding and contact napping. Always has at least 3 hours awake time before bed. My question is how do I help her self settle in the night without boob, how do I know if she's genuinely hungry? Do we try and rock at every other wake ? How many minutes do we rock before we result to boob if crying?
I don't feel like this is a phase or teething etc as gone on waaaay too long and this just appears to be our norm. She is awake and ready to start the day anything from 6 to 7.
Amy advice so greatly appreciated

I literally could have written this myself, we have a pretty similar sleep pattern. My LB is having such short naps in the day too unless he’s out in his pushchair or car seat😓 I feel like it’s going to be like this forever ! 😩

If you are bottle feeding before bed could you do this overnight too?
What are they eating by day?

Also consider the sleep length or timings during the day. Perhaps a longer sleep post lunch/late morning and a short in the afternoon?
It really depends what time their day starts and how active they are too