2 year old in parents bed

[emma2201]

Hi everyone our dd is 2, when we get her to bed we put her in the cot by herself and goes to sleep no problems most of the time same with naps . For last year probably every time she wakes it could be anytime between 10pm -3am every single night we bring her into bed with us on a mattress on the floor because I'm scared she will fall out of bed . Rubbing her over never worked and your back b broke doing it lol . When she comes in she will sleep quite well just usual looking dummies or needs moved. When she wakes if i go to the toilet she will cry looking for me straightaway. I don't know whether to put a matress on the floor in her bedroom and put her into it instead of the cot ?? I'm afraid incase she will get even more dependant on me to start rubbing her over to go to bed cause I know she will b able to get out . Will try anything that will help her sleep most of the night in her own afraid incase she's getting very dependant on me even though I love the cuddles.

Making children sleep alone is a relatively recent and mainly Western obsession. In many parts of the world a family bed is the norm. For millenia babies and small children snuggled up with their parents (you wouldn't leave your young in adjoining cave) so from an evolutionary perspective little ones expect to be with their parents.

I'd recommend joining the UK Cosleepers Facebook group for advice on doing it safely, and just embrace the cuddles and maximise all your sleep. She'll move to her own bed when she's ready. She won't be in with you at 18.

Hi Emma, just to provide the alternative perspective, there might be some gentle adjustments you can do to help her sleep through. A sleep consultant could help you. I am not one!!! But could recommend the amazing lady we've used twice if interested.