I'm heart broken. :( 19 month old sleep

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My daughter who is 19 months has always been an amazing sleeper. I started sleep training at 6 months and she's slept through the night 7-7 since with the help of a dummy.

Just recently she's refusing her cot, won't be put down but is absolutely fine when I take her out. She just wants to be held. She settles in my bed and stops crying and I'm certain she's not ill, she's had some water, she eats well in the day and she's doing well developmentally.

Last week I didn't sleep all night because she was in my bed, we only have a double and it's not feasible and it's not a habit I won't to get into.

Why is she suddenly like this and what do I do? :(

Oh love! Sleep deprivation is the worst, especially after a period of good sleep!

Have you had a big change like childcare or working more, etc? Or are molars coming through? Try and pop some anbesol on anyway if unsure.

Remember sleep isnt linear - you think you've cracked it and it goes downhill for a bit. My DD is 3 and I remember thinking between 1-2 wtf is going on at some points! That was all teeth and speech related and settled v quickly compared to baby sleep.

If you have a spareroom, can you sleep in there tonight and get a good night rest? Things always look better - and the answers clearer - after sleep.

Also it's freezing, if you're in the UK, my DD who sleeps through consistently has been up this week saying she's cold, maybe the cots cold and you're simply warmer? Pop another layer on her if its cold.

It will pass - take it easy on yourself while it's rough xx

It's just a sudden change in her sleep pattern because she is usually so good at sleeping independently. It breaks my heart listening to her shout mummy.

I'm questioning myself as a mother. How can I want her to sleep in her own cot when she's so upset? 😭

The molars could be coming through, she has had rosey cheeks but they don't seem to bother her in the day. I have given neurofen and anbesol but it didn't seem to many any difference.

She has a sleeping bag at 2.5 tog, pyjamas on and a short sleeved vest. If her room drops below 16 the heating kicks in too.

Gosh this is so hard.

Is she mobile, could you try and take the side off her cot? DD got like this around the same age, we took the side off her cot and she suddenly went back to normal. I think because she was unable to freely move she felt a bit trapped when going to bed at night. We read a story in bed then I sat beside her bed while she fell asleep.

You could take a side off the cot, make sure to teach her how to get in and out and then leave some safe toys out and a few books for her to play with if she wakes up.
I have one that was an excellent sleeper and now is less so. There are two double beds. She starts in one, moves to mine goes to sleep next to me then I go and get in the empty bed

A refusal of sleep is common at that age, you just have to persist and not change routine