Ferber and EBF for 7 month old

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Hi,

I know there are plenty of posts on this for please do link me to anything useful….sorry this is a long post but I wanted to get any tips on sleep training my baby because I am so nervous. He is EBF and refuses the bottle. Will drink water from a cup but thinks it’s funny to spit it out and same deal with milk…

Was a good sleeper until about 5.5 months. He then got unwell and then started rolling in his cot banging against it and waking and just stopped self settling. I need to go back to work and can’t handle the night wakings and cosleeping which I’ve had to resort to. I also am really mentally exhausted of breast feeding in general but constant night feeds to resettle are just destroying me and cosleeping just isn’t working.

We think we will do the Ferber method with my husband doing the first 3 nights but he wants to sit in the room with him and comfort at the timed intervals because he thinks coming in and going out will stress our son out even more. Has anyone done this?

I also don’t want to drop night feeds all together cold turkey and thinking if he wakes, I’ll do one after say midnight and 5am and then try to reduce it down to one feed. Has anyone done this?

Finally, we do share a room with our son and until we move in a few months this will be the case. Will this all fail because he’s in the cot in our room? I’ve said I’ll sleep on the sofa first few nights (only going in when clearly he needs a feee) but obviously that’s not going to be a long term thing.

Thank you and all helpful tips would be great.

How does he settle for naps? We started with Ferber for naps first. I found it easier to deal with it during the day and he learned to self settle from there. Then night time settled itself a bit, I carried on feeding in the night but he just woke less over time. He still feeds around twice a night (11ish and 4ish usually) but I can put him back in his cot straight after and he settles back to sleep. I would say that him being his own room also helped but I see you can’t do that yet.
Im sticking with the feeding for now as I think he is genuinely hungry, we’re establishing solids so I’m hoping he’ll drop the feeds naturally as that goes on.