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11 month regression or something else??

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Bellesjp · 13/01/2024 21:33

Dd has usually been a great night sleeper baring a few hiccups but usually slept through the night. Since about 8/9 months she started having one feed in the night again but still going to bed fine and going back down fine after the feed. She went down awake and went straight to sleep no issues usually. Naps are a different story, she's a contact napper and always has been but could deal with that as the night sleep was good.

Fast forward to now, she's refusing to go down awake, stands and cries hysterically. Have been having to feed/rock her to sleep then transfer which she was doing and sleeping through ok still, but now she wakes when I put her down usually and I have to start rocking her off to sleep again, and repeat and repeat, you get the idea. Then wakes after about an hour/2 hours and have to do the same. Eventually seems to settle early hours and sleep til around 6am. Wakes up tired still but won't go back down. Was sleeping before until 7/7,30 so obviously needs more than she's getting.

Any ideas? Is this a regression? Separation anxiety? She is teething but has been for a while and never this bad, usually ok with nurofen/anbesol which she's been having.

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Bellesjp · 13/01/2024 21:35

Meant to say as well I've tried sitting in the room with her reassuring instead of keep getting her out of the cot but nothing seems to settle her apart from being cuddled to sleep. She won't lay down, cries and cries and gets herself so worked up until I pick her up. Also tried pick up put down type thing but it doesn't work as she's crying again as you go to put her down and just will not settle.

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VerySleepy2023 · 14/01/2024 13:06

Following with interest - we are in an identical position at 12 months. Hope it passes for you soon!!

Bellesjp · 14/01/2024 15:11

Hi @VerySleepy2023, guess we can be there for each other for moral support!! Is your little one walking yet? Wondering if that's not helping dd as she's desperate too but can't yet.

Praying for a good night for us both!

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VerySleepy2023 · 14/01/2024 16:16

Absolutely - sorry you’re going through it, it feels absolutely cruel after a year doesn’t it! Is your little one also rejecting naps? We’ve had 25 mins today and that’s it…

No he isn’t walking yet either, but I think he wants to be as well! Maybe that’s the problem? Who knows! Feel like you can go mad googling it searching for an answer haha :/ anyway yes many prayers for tonight! X

Bellesjp · 14/01/2024 19:20

@VerySleepy2023 yes her naps are such hard work, although they always have been tbh. I have to rock her or drive for ages for her to fall asleep which I'm used to and accepted as she slept so well at night before!!

I have been googling like a maniac too 😂 apparently they have this massive urge to stand as much as possible to practise their walking so who knows if they might be on the verge!

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Denimdenimdenim · 14/01/2024 19:32

How's she feeding during the day?

Bellesjp · 14/01/2024 22:48

@Denimdenimdenim mostly fine, she has 4 breastfeeds (first thing, before nap 1, before nap 2 and bedtime) and 3 meals which she eats a decent amount of. Occasionally she has a meal where she plays about with but I always try to make sure she has eaten something even if I have to offer something else x

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Bellesjp · 18/01/2024 19:14

How's it going @VerySleepy2023?

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VerySleepy2023 · 22/01/2024 09:39

Hey @Bellesjp sorry for the slow reply!

We started nursery last week, for 3 days a week, and I've found that on the days he's at nursery he's sleeping relatively well, I guess he's just knackered. On the weekends and weekdays when he's with me though, he's still waking up during the night and screaming for up to 2 hours. It's so exhausting and now I'm back at work it's really having an impact on me and on my husband too!
He's also now started waking up at 5am every single day regardless of nursery, clearly still tired but unable to go back to sleep unless I feed him and bring him into my bed which is something we NEVER did before - I'm worried I'm just creating new habits!

So yes, not great. How are things for you?

Bellesjp · 29/01/2024 20:32

@VerySleepy2023 sorry I missed your reply!

Ah that's so frustrating! I hate the early wake ups, almost worse than being up in the night!! Have they dropped to one nap at nursery? We've had proper fights for the naps this week, it's so annoying! She's obviously so tired but doesn't want to give in. Had a few good nights but now it's worse than ever, multiple wake ups, early mornings and now taking forever to get her down at night. Toying with the idea of trying one nap only but last time I tried just after xmas it was a disaster and not sure if that's what kicked off this nightmare sleep habits!!

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VerySleepy2023 · 02/02/2024 16:03

@Bellesjp no, he's still on 2 naps, but he's only ever napped for 30 mins at a time so I can't imagine him ever going down to one nap haha.

I don't know if this is the culprit (I kind of hope it is) but we've had a molar come through this week! I think it explains why he's been so sad when he wakes up, and I'm hoping that once the pain is over we can try to cut both the habits we've got into (bedsharing in the early morning and breastfeeding at 4am...)

Anyway, how are you getting on? Any improvement?

Marilala · 03/05/2025 08:20

Did things ever improve for you guys? I'm in the exact same boat as you now which is so tough especially as DD has always been such a good sleeper!!

Bellesjp · 03/05/2025 13:03

Hi @Marilalai feel for you! Yes they did improve, I battled on until she was just gone 1 then she dropped to 1 nap a day which helped a lot. She started sleeping a lot better although I did still hold her until she was asleep then transfer to cot until she was nearly 2 🙈 she stopped the false starts and early starts though when she dropped the second nap.
She stopped feeding to sleep around 20 months and then she would go down awake and go to sleep on the own, then started sleeping through the night!

Shes now just over 2 and is a good sleeper most of the time (touches wood!!)

hang on in there!

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