11 week old sleep

[AmyJ596]

Help please

My 11 week old baby boy won’t be put down in the evenings until about 9-10pm. We have tried putting him in his sleeping bag after bath time and BF him then putting him in his crib but he just wakes up after 10mind and cries. Is this normal? We have tried putting him down in Moses basket in evening downstairs after his bath but that doesn’t work either. He’ll sleep for hours in my arms but not in his crib or Moses basket.

another issue is that he screams if my other half tries to get him to sleep when he’s tired.

looking for some advice on whether this normal bedtime of 9/10pm is normal for a 11 week old baby and help on how to get him to stay asleep in his Moses basket in evening!

Sounds pretty normal to me unfortunately… only thing I can think of is how long is his wake window pre bedtime? If he hasn’t been awake long enough before you put him down he may not be tired enough to do a good chunk. Waking very soon after falling asleep is sometimes a ‘false start’, try googling that.

Have you tried swaddling him? My 12 week old was the exact same, he spent a week in the nicu in an incubator and we couldn't hold him and now he will only fall asleep in my arms or if he's swaddled.

Have you tried putting something warm in the moses basket before putting baby in? I used to put a hot water bottle in the next to me during bath time and then once baby was fed I'd take it out of the next to me and put baby in and it helped settle her, because she thought she was on me, the only thing that worked! X

My 14 week old has never gone to bed earlier than 9pm. If I do manage to put him down before that he wakes after a short while. I am just trying to go with the flow. A few weeks ago the earliest he had gone down was 11pm but often later so it is getting better by itself.

no advice really just that from my experience and that of friends with babies similar age it’s normal.

It's very normal for an 11 week old to not be in an established early bedtime yet. That's still very little. I agree that swaddling is very helpful, so definitely something to try if you aren't doing that. Do you use white noise / music? They would also be worth trying. It's also very normal for BF baby to only want mum and to cry with dad at bedtime when they are looking for the breast. If you're combination feeding, could your DH try to settle with a bottle?

We hit a sleep regression when DD was 3.5 months and it meant that she cried instantly any time she was put down. It was a challenging and tiring time but it resolved quickly when she was 7 months. Just remember that all these challenging times are phases and you just have to do the best you can, knowing that things are always evolving and won't be this way for long xx

This is completely normal. When my daughter was this age (she'll be 6 months old in a few days) she didn't go to sleep for the night until around 11pm. But certainly did not sleep for very long. EBF babies wake up more often than FF as it digests quicker so they're hungrier quicker. Newborns tend to go to bed a lot later and will gradually move earlier as they get a bit older. We now put ours down between 6:30 - 7pm which she naturally wants to do.

I also had to hold her for hours and she has only ever contact napped during the day, tried swaddling but didn't work. We bought a tommee tippee sleeping bag which is a slim fit at the top to give them the sense of being snug and secure but you can also use it as a swaddle by closing off the arms opening. Worked much better for us. I remember just watching all sorts of crap on tv at night until it was time for her bed. So as rough as it seems, it is normal and it won't be like this forever.

Please embrace the contact naps and snuggles we've started putting our daughter in her cot now for naps and I miss the contact. They won't be this small for very long 😢 sounds like what you are doing is just right 😊😊😊

Totally normal I'm afraid! We BF and ended up cosleeping and life became sooo much easier once I did!

He is programmed to want to be close to you -- in the wild, he would die if he wasn't close to other humans, so it's just instinct. He was inside your body 11 weeks ago! So so normal.

Yes, totally normal, after 3 months you'll notice they will gradually start to get fussier/ sleepier earlier in the evening so you can put them down earlier. They'll have longer wake windows in the day so will want more sleep at night. But all this starts to happen around 3-4 months and just gradually gets earlier and earlier until you hit 7-8pm xx