Baby so loud we are unable to sleep!

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Our 4 week old is so loud while sleeping my partner and I are finding it impossible to sleep. She is grunting and groaning all night, it sounds like she is extremely uncomfortable but is fast asleep when you look in here Moses basket. This also only seems to be at night during the day she is a quiet sleeper.

Any ideas on why this could be and how to make it better? We are getting to the point of we are going to have to put her in her own room Despite being told she has to stay in with us until 6 months!

any help would be greatly appreciated!

We put ours in there own room but before we get slated
our house isn’t enormous we left lights off and doors open so realistically they were only 10ft away

We had our child in their own room

Please don't put them in their own room so young. The research really does show increased risk of SIDS.

Babies often make this sort of noise. I also found it horrendous. I used to sleep with one ear plug in and then lay with my non ear plug ear to the pillow. It worked a treat as I could still hear the baby when he made even the slightest grizzle because it was just muffled through the pillow, but it meant that those grunting noises didn't keep me awake.

Another option is to try a bit of white noise and put it on relatively low but positioned between you and baby - you will most definitely still hear the baby when they grizzle or cry but the grunting wont be as obvious.

4 weeks is still very early days and they do get quieter!

Same. Plus an owlet monitor for DC2.

It's very normal I'm afraid, it's called active sleep.

Please don't move them into their own room before 4 months. I know the noise is annoying, but you would never forgive yourself if anything happened to them.

As PP have suggested, white noise helps muffle the grunting. Take turns wearing ear plugs. Taken turns sleeping in with the baby while the other person gets more restful sleep in another room

Unfortunately new born babies tend to be quite noisy! I think it's partly from them getting rid of all the shit on their lungs etc from when they were born and general newborness!

It does ease off though, I can't remember when now as mine are 3 and 11 months but they do generally get quieter (not all but most)

Could you move baby to the end of the room but still in the same room? Use white noise to muffle baby noises (you'd still hear them crying obvs) or use some low ear plugs or something?

Please don't move baby into their own room so young :(

We put our DS in his own room at 4 weeks. He’s 22 now and still a noisy sleeper.

All of my children went into their own room around two weeks.
I also couldn’t rest or sleep from the various noises

We put our firstborn in his room from 4 weeks for this reason. We did buy an angel breathing monitor and a video camera just to soothe my anxiety. Like pp our house is small so he was only a few feet away but round a corner so I couldn't hear the grunting. I was going mad from lack of sleep. My second was a silent sleeper so he stayed in with us for 4 months.

They dont stay noisy for long, mine is 6 weeks and already a lot quieter. Play white noise and I sleep with one earplug in on the side that isn't on the pillow.

We found the (straw) Moses basket too noisy on top of the grunting so assembled the cot in our room earlier than intended & that at least removed the infernal rustling.

Maybe take turns wearing earplugs, so one of you endures and one of you gets a bit of sleep?

The snorting does diminish.

Ah yes, the tiny dinosaur/dolphin noises. I remember them well. Perfectly normal, though unnerving. Baby will grow out of them.

As PP's have said, please don't put them in their own room so young. White noise should drown out a lot of it.

Mine was the same, got a lot quieter from about 10 weeks old and now at 4 months I can only just hear him breathing he's so quiet.

You need to do something like:

• white noise between you and crib
• split nights so only one of you in room
• sleep ear buds that play noise but won't mask crying
• wait it out, you do actually get used to it and severe exhaustion means you find it easier anyway

I remember those days! My DH and I used to say DC sounded like a zombie from walking dead. It honestly doesn't last long, and you'll forget all about it. Don't put them in their own room, the SIDs risk is real, it's good for them to have you near as it helps them regulate themselves.

My DD used to make the same noises until 3 months old and to be honest I just accepted it as one of the many things about newborns. As PP have suggested, you can play some white noise in the background and you should be able to sleep through it-we had Ollie the owl which worked a treat.
I wouldn’t move my newborn child in it’s own room to be honest, they are so small at this age and still cluster feeding majority of the cases. The risk of SIDS should also not be disregarded so if you decide to move them get a decent breathing monitor and camera.

PS. I found my DDs grunting noises very cute🥰 Children grow up so quickly so make the most of it xx

Its fine to put them in their own room.

How is SIDS risk greater if they’re in a Moses basket in one room or another?

People say they hear you breathing next to them and it regulates their breathing. I have no idea if this is true.

In the past, advice was to put babies on their stomachs to sleep and they absolutely prefer it this way. Babies sleep comfortably and soundly on their stomachs, they generally don't like sleeping on their back on a flat empty mattress.

You have to look at the research and make a judgement call on the risks of them sleeping on their stomach/in another room.

I kept mine in the same room as me til about 8 months but put him on his stomach as soon as I could see he was pushing himself up with enough strength I felt confident he would be fine. Unfortunately that wasn't til 4 months. I rode out the grunting until then and caught up on sleep by taking shifts with husband. A dummy also helped.

My son did this. It is very normal. I think it got better around 12 weeks ish.

They need to hear your breathing to regulate their own.

Because hearing you breathe is supposed to help them regulate their own breathing.

However, I’m not sure if I logically follow how it could possibly work since white noise is apparently fine to use and surely if you’re using that to drown their noise out then they can’t hear your breathing as a result. Ditto if they’re napping downstairs during the day and you have the TV or radio. So it doesn’t make much sense to me. Maybe I’m missing something though??

Personally I was happy with them going into their own room since they were healthy weights, born at term and following all the other sleep guidelines so clear cot, no loose covers, following the sleeping bag temperature dressing guides and with a dummy. Also had a breathing monitor for the youngest.

Don't worry. My baby was like that at 4 weeks but it totally improved by 8 weeks. It'll probably get better. You've just got to put up with it for now though, please don't listen to PPs unwisely suggesting to put baby in own room (though perhaps you or DH could take turns going to another room to sleep for a few hours).

Take it in turns to for you and DP to sleep in a different room to the baby. It’s the only way to get some sleep.

Don’t put the baby in its own room. I wouldn’t have been able to sleep anyway knowing the baby was in a different room alone, I would have been constantly going in to check on them.

I remember thinking there was something wrong with my baby as he was so bloody noisy at night! My friend told me to get some ear plugs and I've used them every night since - said baby is nearly 8.

You will still wake up when they cry but you won't be disturbed by the shuffling and snuffling and snorting.

White noise played really loudly also helps both of you sleep.

Please do NOT position your newborn on their front to sleep. This goes against everything that the Lullaby Trust advise for safe sleeping and preventing SIDS.

They do also recommend sleeping in the same room as baby until at least six months.