two under 18 mnths sharing a room

[poodlepusher]

My DS (18 mths) and my DD (3 mths) are now that she's sleeping through the night, sharing a room.

AT first she was going to bed 20-60 mins after he'd settled and even though she squawked a little going down, it didn't seem to bother or wake him at all.

tonight they went to bed at the same time - due to tiredness, timing of feeds etc.

She was cranky and grizzled for 5 mins and went quiet. Then he piped up and mimicked her. She woke and so it went on, back and forth for 20 mins, then silence.

Should I aim to stagger their bed times to avoid this? Its just that last night he sort of waited for her to arrive before settlign properly. This is all new and I'm finding my way forward with what works best for them, but any others in this situation / who have been in it who can offer their advice / experience, I'd be grateful.

hi i have a 14mnth gap between my dd and dd and just left them too it dont worry you will prob have a couple of nights like this. THey will love going ti bed together and they entertain themselves!

Hi
I have 12mths between my dds and they have shared a room from dd2 being 5mths. They are now 2.2yrs and 14mths and I still stagger bedtimes especially since DD2 moved into her toddler bed. At the min it is a little unfair on dd1 as dd2 will get out of bed if she knows dd1 is in the room but if she goes alone she fine. When DD2 was in the cot for the first 2mths I put her to bed about 30mins after dd1. Then they went to bed at the same time until 2mths ago which is when I have brought in the 30min gap again but DD2 goes first at 7pm. Unless they are both shattered when they go together but I have to sit in the room until they are asleep
Also think it is nice with them being so close in age that they get their own bedtime and story.

mine are a 14/15month gap and are now 6 and 7 years old and still sharing a room.

Every now and then, I get fed up of them pissing about and I stagger bedtimes and then I stop and then I stagger and on it goes and I think I've been doing that since they were around the same as yours .

Sorry, not much help but wanted to let you know that it's a dilemma you'll probably carry on facing for a few years yet so don't worry if you find you're being flexible rather than sticking to a plan iyswim!

this is all really helpful. I think it reinforces that you have to go with the flow, see what happens and change / adapt as needed. That's what I thought and planned to do, but its very reassuring to hear that this is how most other people have done it.

Thank you very much.

My two did this for maybe a week - a week and a half. They stopped it left to their own devices. They are now nearly 4 1/2 and 14.5 months. They've both slept excellently for too long for me to remember since when.