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Did your child sleep better when you stopped cosleeping?

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StardustGiraffe · 12/12/2023 11:31

We have been cosleeping with our 14-month-old since she was about 4 weeks old as she used to wake immediately when put down but would sleep really well next to me.

However, as time's gone on that seems to have faded and for the last few months she has been waking often through the night. One night this week was as much as every hour; it is a good night if she only wakes twice, but that is rare these days.

I am breastfeeding and mostly feed her back to sleep otherwise she just cries and cries, although on occasion she'll go back with just a bit of stroking or if her dad shushes her and holds her close. We only have one bedroom so if she's up crying for prolonged periods then we all are, which is why I've mainly continued feeding her back to sleep.

I'm just wondering if there came a time when anyone found their cosleeping baby slept better in a cot without them?

She does seem to sleep better in the early part of the evening when we're not in the bed yet so I'm wondering if having her own space in the cot might help her? There is nowhere else for my DP to sleep to give her more space in our bed so can't do that - although I have spent weekends alone with her and she still wakes fairly frequently with just me there.

I have been putting off placing her in the cot asleep in case she wakes up and I have to start again, or she starts waking even more in the night.

Anybody been in this position and have any advice?

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Ardith · 12/12/2023 11:46

No :(

Ardith · 12/12/2023 11:49

Sorry too brief 😂

Just thinking about how my baby slept makes me so grumpy!

I also breastfed my baby to sleep. Baby woke all the time so we began to cosleep and baby hated cot (tried for months).

Stopped breastfeeding at age 2 after which bedtimes took FOREVER.

He first slept through the night the month before he turned three.

Sorry 😬🙈

StardustGiraffe · 12/12/2023 12:04

Oh god 😅 There was me hoping things might get better!

Mine has never been a good sleeper but she might do an hour and a half nap on the bed on her own, or do a solid 3 hours without needing me in the evening, but once we're in the bed it's like she's just up constantly.

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Sweetestp · 12/12/2023 18:55

Hi OP!

our situation is kind of similar with my 12 month old DS.
we only have one room so we all share, he has a stand alone cot in the corner and a side cot attached to my side of the bed.
he slept in the sidecot for really long until he could crawl and for safety i started letting him sleep in his cot for day naps.

in the evening i start him out in his cot. He also wakes twice and is breastfed back to sleep, i try to put him back in his cot as much as possible because I also feel like we are all waking each other up!

he also just cries and cries if i dont BF him, although I’d really like to wean but at the moment just getting him to sleep asap is the priority!

maybe you could even let her start sleeping on a mattress on the floor?

StardustGiraffe · 15/12/2023 21:03

Hey @Sweetestp

Yes your situation does sound similar!

I just find myself chickening out every night of trying to move her into her cot once she's fallen asleep in my arms feeding, it's so much easier to just roll her down onto our mattress. But then I used to feel that was about putting her down at all once she was asleep because for such a long time she'd just wake up in minutes, so maybe I need to bite the bullet.

I agree, I'd like to night wean now too but I think it will cause so much disruption to all of us that I'm not sure it's currently worth it.

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StardustGiraffe · 15/12/2023 21:04

We definitely disturb when we get into bed because sometimes she'll have been soundly asleep since about 7.30 without me needing to go in at all, so I often think if she was in her own space/room maybe she'd be sleeping so much better by now.

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KylieKangaroo · 15/12/2023 21:15

I co sleep with my 2 1/2 year old and she has only just started sleeping through in the last couple of months.

I won't put her in her own room as her sisters room is next door and she is so loud she'll wake her up so she stays in with me for now!

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