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Can't see this ending!

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FebMama · 22/11/2023 22:26

Although in my rational mind I know it we'll eventually.

We are almost 7 weeks deep into what I thought was the 9 month regression, but is it even regression if it's going on for this long?!! Or do I just suddenly have a bad sleeper?

Nearly 10 month old DS was doing 12 hour nights before this. Roughly 7pm-6.45am.

We have gotten into a bit of a bad habit now where he will wake in the night and eventually I'll bring him into the bed. But he's not even sleeping good in the bed either.

I'm just at a loss at how best to respond to him during the night. He goes to sleep himself. I put him down wide awake, say night night and walk out. Within a few minutes, he babbles himself off to sleep which is lovely.

During the night he needs a lot of reassurance. Picking him up actually makes him more frustrated I feel.
I can tap his bum and rub his back and he will nod back off, but this can happen every 2 hours. Sometimes less than that. And even happens if we co-sleep.

I'm SO tired after weeks of this and thought I would get my good sleeper back by now.

I'm now at a point where I want to break the association of coming into the bed. So whilst I'm in my own bed at the moment, I have a floor bed set up in his room for when he next wakes up so I can stay in his room with him rather than constantly get up and out of bed every few hours.

I'm just tired. Really tired of it. ☹️

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FebMama · 23/11/2023 08:44

Anyone in the same boat? Bump!

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dairyrusk · 23/11/2023 13:14

Hi! I've heard of this before - a baby who was previously sleeping through changed patterns at about 6-7 months. It happens, and it does get better, but unfortunately no one will be able to tell you when :/ If you don't want to co-sleep (because it's not working for you), you will need to find a different way of soothing your child that does work. Mine had different associations and we had to slowly break them and create new ones (for us, we had to go from rocking and bouncing to patting, which was a big improvement at the time).

FWIW, my child didn't sleep through until about 13m, and she also took forever to fall asleep. Like, hours, and that was for naps, too! But those who tell you it will pass are telling the truth: it eventually does. This doesn't make it any easier in the moment though, you have my sympathies.

SeaToSki · 23/11/2023 13:21

Look at Ferber, you are going to need to re teach self soothing in the middle of the night when he naturally comes into a light sleep as he has clearly forgotten how to do it himself. The good thing is that it should be quite quick as he can start to sleep on his own, so his basic techniques are there

NatMoz · 23/11/2023 13:58

My baby slept through from 10 weeks to 6 months then didn't sleep through again until 18 months.

Between 6-18m it was only one wake up though.

FebMama · 23/11/2023 20:29

@dairyrusk thank you for your reply. I know in reality it's all temporary. DS1 was like this and is now nearly aged 4 and an amazing sleeper. He's been an amazing sleeper since he turned 1! I'm very grateful he can sleep 12-13 hours solidly. I'm just hoping it clicks with DS2 soon!

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FebMama · 23/11/2023 20:30

@SeaToSki I absolutely know he needs to learn to self settle during the night too. It's frustrating as I know he knows how to do it at the start of naps and bedtime!! I'm not sure I want to go down the Ferber route although I know it's probably the option to get the quickest results. What other options do I have?! 😑

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Cas112 · 23/11/2023 20:31

My son slept awful from 8 months till 13months, just got better this past couple of weeks. He originally slept through from 8 weeks. Hang on OP, you'll get there x

FebMama · 23/11/2023 20:31

@NatMoz I think I could handle one wake up! That sounds like bliss compared to what we have right now!

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FebMama · 23/11/2023 20:32

@Cas112 thank you for your reply. Did you do anything different to get to where you are now?

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Namechange10122 · 23/11/2023 20:41

@FebMama we meet again 🤣

still in a similar boat with my DS too. Although the hysterical crying middle of the night has stopped we are still getting 2 or more night wakings but 2 is a big improvement. This week I have been trying to help self settle. He can’t do it at the beginning of sleep or naps but sometimes during his wakings in the night, I watch/ listen to see if he is crying where I would go in or if just whinging I leave him a little. On a few occasions he falls back asleep. I don’t think that’s helped I think time but still not there yet. Sending sympathy and prayers it passes soon! I read aside from the 4 month regression this age the sleep regression is the worst but who knows 🤷🏻‍♀️

helimon · 06/03/2024 07:59

Your idea of having a floor bed in his room is a good one. This way, you can stay close to him without wordle necessarily bringing him into your bed. Gradually reduce your level of intervention over time, allowing him to learn to self-soothe.

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