When did baby sleep through? Without sleep training?

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Baby is 9.5 months. Has never slept through the night not once. On 2 naps, bedtime around 7.30, always awake between 6-7am. Tried so many variations of naps etc. definitely low sleep needs.

used to get 1 waking for food then back to sleep then around 7 months moved into own room and cot and from there mainly wakes up around 3 times. At times when poorly it’s more, had maybe 2/3 nights when woken once but rarely happens.

im now back at work 40 hour weeks, partner hgv driver so needs his sleep and he often starts work at 3am so I do all night wakings. I’m exhausted. Most of the times it’s because he can’t self settle so I pick him up and he goes back to sleep. He can self settle sometimes though so not sure why not all the time but I maybe don’t leave it long enough for fear of disturbing partners sleep and he needs his sleep for his job and safety etc

i didn’t want to do sleep training but it’s getting likely now as we are not seeing any improvements and I can’t do it for much longer on so little broken sleep. I think at this age sleep training would likely need to be the extinction method

when did your baby consistently sleep though without sleep training?

Both mine slept 8-8 from 12 weeks old

How on earth does this comment help or offer advice in any way?!

You could do your own watered down version of sleep training? Thats kind of what I did. With both of mine they went in their own rooms at 6mnths. I never had a baby monitor so I'd only go in if they were actually crying. I just started leaving it a little longer after I woke to them crying each time. It worked quite quickly actually. I will say that neither of them ever napped during the day on purpose past 6 months. I always thought napping caused unsettled night time sleep personally. But I do know that for some kids its the other way round and being overtired is the reason they won't settle at night. But I do think for some children napping during the day just means they won't sleep at night because they get their sleep during the day.

My daughter is 2 and she was a brilliant sleeper at first but got worse. She doesn't sleep through and ends up in our bed during the night. I googled endlessly, asked for advice, tried different gadgets and sleep aids. I did gradual retreat on advice from a health visitor friend of mine. Worked very well in reducing the bedtime resistance and it felt gentle, didn't stop her waking up though. I also realised that nothing else I tried would really help one way or another. It feels to me like it's just one of those things. It feels like forever when you're in the sleepless nights situation but it won't be forever. It gets easier. Sometimes she does sleep through, say two out of seven nights. I was stressed about trying to fix it and got nowhere. I think it's a phase that eventually (hopefully) sorts itself out.

My first slept through fairly reliably from around 10 months. My second is 14months and still doesn’t sleep through the night. It is exhausting.

Also ...if sleep is the goal then do whatever you need to to get some IMO. Bed sharing in the night did this for us. We all got sleep. She starts the night in her own cotbed then usually in with us by 2am

If he has low sleep needs, drop a nap.

I'd try and combine both into one midday nap.

Is it definitely low sleep needs though and not just inability to self settle between sleep phases?

With baby number one I had an awful time as he had so many issues with his sleep and I was broken. I physically and emotionally couldn’t cope. As a result we sleep trained at 9 months under the guidance of a sleep consultant and we had fantastic results in a week.

With my second son I co-slept with him until he was about 18 months old and he still wasn’t sleeping through the night. I moved him into his own room because I was so, so tired and I knew that stopping co-sleeping and introducing some of the sleep training tactics I’d used for my first son was my only hope. Thankfully this worked so by 19 months he was reliably sleeping 11 hours through the night.

You have my sympathies OP, sleep exhaustion due to a non-sleeping baby is absolute hell.

15 months ish, but progressively better from 12 months. I coslept until then.

DD slept much better when she could a) Walk and b) dropped a nap.

Never sleep trained and was BF to 26 months.

12 weeks old. X

Sympathies. I was against sleep training then did it at 13mo as I couldn't take it any more, gradual retreat method, worked in about three nights. Did it at 9mo for dc2.

Around 3 month, the first night my sil stayed over and took him in with her to give me a break (single parent)!